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Homeward Bound
Job’s friends heard of all the adversity that had come upon him and took action. They mobilized, each one coming from his own place, and made an appointed time to come and mourn with him and to comfort him. When we hear of someone’s woes, our reaction to them will tell the tale of our character and virtue. Job’s friends could have heard what happened to him, shrugged their shoulders, thanked the Lord it wasn’t them and continued with their lives. They may have spared him some thoughts and prayers, as has become fashionable in our day and age, but as far as going out of their way and carving out a time in which to come and visit him, they could have easily found excuse upon excuse not to do it.
We have families of our own, businesses to run, things to do,
and sheep to shear. It is a horrible thing what happened to Job, but such is
life; we wish him well.
The three men held Job in enough esteem and considered him
enough of a friend, wherein they put their lives on pause and came to be with
him. If your friends, or those you consider your friends, are unwilling to go
out of their way to be a comfort in your time of hardship or to mourn with you
in your time of mourning, perhaps the relationship is not reciprocal.
There is the comfort friends and family can bring in times of
distress, and such comfort is not without its benefits, being as a salve on an
open wound, but the comfort others can bring pales in comparison to the comfort
God can bring. If you find yourself without friends who are willing to comfort
you in your time of hardship, know that God is always willing and able to
comfort you beyond what any man can do.
The most difficult time of my life was dealing with my
grandfather’s passing, closely followed by my mother’s. It may sound odd to
some to put his loss above the loss of my mother, but throughout my life, my grandpa
was a constant. He was the person I spent the most time with. My grandpa taught
me how to ride a bike, shoot a slingshot, bait a hook, honor God, love the
Bible, and even tried to teach me noodling, although that particular skill
never took. To my young eyes, he was the coolest grandpa in the village, the
only man I’d ever met with a tattoo, which he’d gotten in the Navy. He was my
best friend from as early as I can remember, and that carried through pretty
much for the rest of my adolescence and into adulthood.
From the age of twelve and well into my twenties, I spent at
least nine months out of the year on the road with him, the other three being
spent either coming home for a fresh change of clothing or spending just enough
time in Fullerton to put the newsletter together. I loved my mother deeply, but
my relationship with my grandfather was far deeper, more established, and
fleshed out than it was with her. She was busy with working, raising my little
brothers, keeping the home, and doing everything else, so as far as spending a
lot of time with her one-on-one, that only happened later on in life.
When my grandfather passed, to their credit, friends and
family did try to comfort me, but I was inconsolable. Even with having received
a word from the Lord that he would be allowed to choose whether he remains or
goes on to his reward, the loss was something akin to taking a cheese grater to
an open wound.
During that time of grieving, the only thing that brought me
comfort was being alone with God and pouring out my heart to Him. It wasn’t so
much that the pain of loss went away; rather, it was muted, and the peace of
God was an ever-present companion that kept me from despondency. We’ve all
experienced loss. We’ve all grieved or mourned the passing of a loved one, and
in those moments, the presence of God is a fount of untold comfort.
Although none of us can honestly say we’ve experienced Job-level
hardship, we’ve all experienced some sort of difficulty in life. The sun shines
on the just and the unjust alike, but what the just have is the presence of God
in their lives, something the unjust can never experience unless they humble themselves
and repent, thereby becoming just.
Not only did Job’s friends put their lives on hold and come
to be a comfort to him, but they also spent seven days and seven nights with
him, sitting down on the ground, not speaking one word to him. Could you
imagine sitting on the ground for an entire week and not speaking one word? It’s
not as though they had cell phones or YouTube to keep them busy; they didn’t
have television to make the time pass a bit faster; they didn’t bring books
along or do their taxes while they sat; they sat in silence for an entire week.
This shows the depth of love the three friends had for Job. How
many people can you think you’d be willing to sit with for seven days and seven
nights without uttering one word? Not on a couch or in some comfortable chair,
but on the ground, next to someone covered in boils, sitting on an ash pile,
unrecognizable from the person you once knew?
If ever there was a question about the affection Job’s friend
had for him, their act of kindness and willingness to go beyond what anyone
would expect of them should dispel any doubts. They saw his grief was great and
knew that no words they could have spoken would have consoled him. Although in
a pitiable state, Job did not pity himself or invite the pity of others. He
accepted the situation for what it was, never once sinning with his lips.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
True faith and dependence upon God are sustaining. Trusting in His sovereignty removes the burden of second-guessing ourselves or playing the ever-horrendous what could have been game within our minds. I used to do that when I was younger, wondering what would have been had I turned left when I turned right, and realized that it was both wasted time and wasted effort.
The past is the past, the present is the present, and the
future is God’s territory. Throughout the years, I’ve learned not to dwell on
the past, to live in the present, and to trust God in all things when it comes
to the future. I’ve found it’s the only way to be surefooted and retain the joy
and peace of God through the ups and downs of life.
It’s easy to get caught up in what will be or what could have
been and miss out on what is, fail to live in the present, focus on today, this
moment, and what we can do to further the kingdom of God. For the longest time,
I was stuck in my own head, not starting a new project for fear of not being
around to finish it. I usually don’t write books someone can leaf through in a
few hours flat. Most of the books I’ve written are a few hundred pages, and
every new book starts with a blank page, the first words, the first paragraph,
and the first chapter.
I struggled with this for the longest time until one day, I
saw my next-door neighbor planting some trees. His name is Bob, and he is no
spring chicken. Bob also had open heart surgery a few years back, so it’s not
as though he is in tip-top shape, yet there he was, shovel in hand, digging a
hole, planting a tree, and going on to the next.
A Greek proverb that has made its way through the ages says a
society grows great when old men plant trees in whose shade they will never
sit. I realized the truth of it and came to terms with the reality that my duty
is to run the race faithfully. It is up to God and God alone when I cross the
finish line.
The next morning, I started writing again, and six books
later, I still haven’t stopped. Sometimes, it’s more about starting something
than being bogged down with the question of whether you’ll be around to finish
it or not. If God has called you to a work, even if you are fully aware it will
not be completed in your lifetime, put your hand to the plow and start doing
what God has called you to do. Tomorrow comes with its own problems; it will
worry about its own things. We have today, and none of us are guaranteed a
tomorrow, but if today is the day I am to meet my maker, I’d like it to be
while I am busy doing His work.
I realize full well that, in hindsight, it’s easy to give
advice, but there were a good two years when I was just spinning my wheels, and
the thought of not being around to finish what I had started haunting me to the
point of paralysis. Granted, it was during the time when everyone thought the
human race would go extinct from the sniffles, but if it had not been that, it
likely would have been something else. I never understood the trope of being
self-aware enough to get out of your own way until I did. It was an aha moment,
an epiphany of sorts, both profound in its implications and humbling in its
simplicity.
Sometimes, you just have to put your head down and put one
foot in front of the other without any guarantees other than the knowledge that
you’re doing what you’re meant to do. Even when you feel like you’re not making
any progress or nothing is coming of it, press on, be diligent, and eventually,
you will see it was not for naught.
It’s tempting to put off what you know you’re meant to do
until the stars align, and everything clicks into place, until there’s nothing
else vying for your time, and you have no worries or concerns. Everyone has
their idyllic scene well fleshed out in their mind, mine being a log cabin, a crackling
wood fire, the scent of cedar in the air, a hot cup of coffee, with snow gently
falling outside the window, quiet, with a pet pug sleeping on a worn carpet at
my feet.
I’ve got two rambunctious daughters, no pet pug, and live in
a subdivision in Wisconsin. Far from idyllic, but I wake up every morning and
do the work. I’ve come to realize that there will never be a perfect time
except for that moment to lay aside the concerns and worries about tomorrow and
what it will bring and be faithful in the present.
Job received no revelation that eventually things would turn
around; an angel did not appear to him, and there was no burning bush or a
voice from heaven encouraging him to press on and persevere. He’d lost
everything, his health was declining with each passing day, he sat on an ash
heap scratching at his boils with a potsherd, and the only thing in his future,
as far as the eye could see, was more pain. All that Job had was the moment,
that inhalation and exhalation of breath, and in the moment, he chose
faithfulness over despondency, integrity over surrender, and trust over
bitterness.
When we are anchored in faith, we are not cast to and fro by
the storms of life. We remain steadfast even at our lowest, knowing the nature
and character of the God we serve and standing on the promise that all things
work together for good to those who love God and to those who are called
according to His purpose. That’s the critical point many ignore: for all things
to work together for good, you must love God. Likewise, you are called
according to His purpose and not your own.
Jesus never promised an easy way or a way without trials and
testing, but He did declare that He was the only way and the only means by
which man can be reconciled to God and be restored to a relationship with Him. There
is no other way, and if you love God and are called according to His purpose,
know that whatever it is you may be struggling through today, it will work
together for good.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Solomon once wrote that he who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed. You don’t get to pick your family but you can select your friends. If you find yourself surrounded by fools, it’s nobody’s fault but your own because you chose it, attracted it, and embraced it rather than seek out wise men who would have made you wiser instead.
I cannot boast of a panoply of friends, but the friends I do
have, I’ve chosen purposefully. My intent was never to surround myself with yes
men or those who would agree with me on every topic, but rather those who would
challenge me and, as iron sharpens iron, seek to grow together and hold each
other accountable.
One of the worst things a pastor or a preacher can do is
surround themselves with sycophants who think they can do no wrong. No, you’re
not the second coming of the Messiah, you don’t walk on water, you do have
flaws, and it’s good to surround yourself with people who keep you humble.
Some of the biggest scandals within the church of late have
come about because rather than love their soul enough to call them out on their
sin, the governing body, the elders, deacons, and those with knowledge of the
moral failures of their leader, swept it under the rug and pretended as though
it never happened. They were more concerned about their paycheck than they were
about the spiritual condition of the man in charge, so rather than deal with
the festering wound, they set about protecting an image. When your friends, the
elder board, or the governing body of any given work are more concerned about
image and what exposing sin might mean for the revenue than they are about the
truth, it’s a problem that won’t go away.
In hindsight, they all concur that it would have been better
to rip off the band-aid and deal with the situation when it arose, but now,
months, years, or decades down the line, it’s only gotten worse, deeper, more
diseased, and the fallout will be all the greater.
Job was a wise man, and he surrounded himself with wise
friends. Teman, the region Job’s friend Eliphaz was from, would later be
associated with wisdom itself by none other than God when He queried through
Jeremiah whether wisdom was no more in Teman. It had been centuries since the
time of Job, and it seems there had been a decline in wisdom in Teman, but
during his time, it was a valued and sought-after virtue.
In our modern era, Solomon’s words have been retooled and
simplified, wherein the brilliant minds of our day have concluded that you are
either the average of the five people you spend the most time with or the better-known
adage, show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future, but the genesis of
this logical deduction can be traced back to the Proverbs of old, which are
included in the Book so many ignore and despise today.
The Bible is a wonderland of wisdom, and more often than not,
every epiphany and every quip that resonates, for which men take credit as
being the originators of, can be traced back to it in some form or fashion.
It’s no accident that the further a society draws away from
Scripture, the less wisdom there is to be found in it. When you do away with
the light, when you do away with the Word of God, only darkness and foolishness
remain. We can see what society has become in real-time over the last few
decades, and the core reason for all this is that we have strayed from God.
There is no wisdom to be found in the world or its ways. Every wicked thing
that is presented as being the new way to fulfillment and wholeness is
discovered to be vapid and substanceless, and those who chased after it,
thinking it would make them whole, found themselves more despondent,
disjointed, and discombobulated than ever before.
Throughout history, we’ve seen that a renaissance of wisdom
began with one man. It didn’t take a village to come together and decide they
would pursue it; it took one man whose desire for wisdom was such that he let nothing
stand in his way of acquiring it. That desire inspired others, and eventually,
there was a movement, a groundswell of souls who were tired of wallowing in the
ignorance they’d become accustomed to and hungered for something more. Any quest
whose purpose is wisdom will eventually lead to the foot of the cross. It will
lead to the Word of God because it is wisdom distilled. The Bible is the source
of all wisdom and the only thing we need to be counted among the wise.
There are those who are wise and those who profess to be
wise. There is a marked difference between the two, for while the truly wise
have their wisdom tethered in truth, in the Word of God and His ways, those professing
to be wise become fools trusting in their own wisdom.
Romans 1:22-23, “Professing to be wise, they became fools,
and changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like
corruptible man – and birds and four-footed animals and creeping things.”
This is what your own wisdom gets you: foolishness. All the
wretchedness, silliness, foolishness, confusion, and aberrant behavior we are
seeing are merely symptoms of the underlying disease. The underlying disease is
a departure from godly wisdom for the truth of God’s word and the light of
Scripture. The resulting symptoms are readily visible in our modern culture,
and until the disease is dealt with, the symptoms will morph, and new variants
will appear, all worse than the previous iterations.
Spiritual problems require spiritual solutions. In order for
the current problem to even begin to be rectified, we must distance ourselves
from those professing to be wise when they are demonstrable fools and return to
the wisdom of the Gospel, submitting to it and doing as it commands. We have the
prescription, but simply having the prescription will do nothing to alleviate the
disease. We must take the medicine that is the Word of God and allow it to
purify us from within. Am I preaching to the choir? Perhaps, but I’ve seen far too
many seemingly stable believers go off into the weeds, believing things the
Bible never speaks of and finding their faith shipwrecked as a consequence.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
I overslept. It happens rarely, but it does happen on occasion. I am only human, after all. Blessings.
The presence of God makes the most unbearable of situations bearable. As children of God, our attitude and disposition are not dictated by our circumstances but by His living presence in our hearts. Paul and Silas were in the inner prison, with their feet fastened in stocks, yet they sang hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them.
It’s not as though they live during a time when three hots
and a cot were guaranteed if you happened to be incarcerated. They were likely
sitting on the ground, unable to move, muscle aches and sore backs getting
worse with each passing minute, with no respite in sight as they had not even
been tried yet, but their hearts were full of the peace and joy of the Lord, to
the point that they sang hymns to Him.
I’ll be the first to confess that I like my freedom, a warm
blanket, and the ability to move my legs at will. By any metric, comparatively
speaking, I live a pampered life when considering others who came before me. If
I cannot bring myself to sing hymns to God in my comfort, with a roof over my
head and heat to keep me warm, how will I be able to justify my apathy and
indifferent attitude toward His blessings when standing shoulder to shoulder
with those who in the midst of being brutalized had the wherewithal to praise
God?
When our focus is on Him, the circumstances we find ourselves
in don’t influence us or affect our state of mind. It’s not that we don’t feel
pain or loss, privation or hunger. Job himself was unrecognizable to his three
friends, but we don’t fixate on our problems; we focus on the One who is the
solution to all our problems. God is where hope originates and resides. In Him,
we can look at the present and know with certainty and no shadow of turning
that He is already into tomorrow, making a way when there seems to be no way.
We serve, obey, and follow because it is our heart’s desire
to do so, not because we’re looking for something other than the bond of
friendship and intimacy that can only come about by spending time in His
presence. If my service to God is conditional on Him blessing me by way of the
material, then it is stained and done with ulterior motives. All I do in His
name amounts to nothing more than Cain’s sacrifice, something done out of
rigidity and tradition rather than true desire.
We serve God because we want to serve Him, not because we
have to out of fear of Him taking away our creature comforts or the toys we
spend more time with than with Him.
In the era of the participation trophy, even believers who
should know better seem to demand praise from on high for doing the bare
minimum as far as spending time with God, praising Him, and declaring that He
is worthy.
Neither God’s expectations nor His standard of servanthood
have changed from generation to generation. A good and faithful servant was
deemed such two thousand years ago as they are today. We go back and forth and
round and round as to why we’re not seeing the presence and power of God in our
day and age as those who came before us did, and we find ever more inventive
ways to remove ourselves from the equation and bypass accountability
altogether. Well, you see, the reason we’re not seeing the manifest power of
God is because God just doesn’t do that anymore. So much of His power was
poured out during the early church that God needed to take a break and recharge
His batteries.
We dread to consider the possibility that in order for God to
pour out, He must have a vessel to pour into, and He won’t pour into just any
vessel. It must be a vessel of honor, once that has been washed and made clean
without and within, for only in this way can what has been poured in remain
pure and untainted.
Once that consideration comes to the fore, we’d have to deal
with the reality that many claiming to be prophets, apostles, and men of
spiritual acclaim are only playing at it, never having received what only God
could give because the desire of their heart is personal acclaim, popularity,
and self-serving mindset that always seems to have the individual as the
pinnacle of purpose. Your job is to bring glory to God, not to man. Every time
you fail to do so, you’ve failed in your mission.
God’s hand is not short, nor have His promises ceased to be
true in our modern age. The problem isn’t with God; it’s never been. The
problem lies at the feet of those claiming to be His because words are only
words until they are put into action, and the fruit of that action determines
whether we are a good tree bearing good fruit or otherwise.
Your spiritual well-being is not a tertiary issue, something to get around to when all else is done. It is primary and paramount, the single most important thing you have to nurture and grow while you walk this earth. Throughout the millennia, men who prioritized God over all else saw His presence and power manifest themselves in their daily lives to the point that they’ve become legendary men of renown, whom we look to as examples of faithfulness and steadfastness. They were no different than you or I. They had responsibilities, jobs, friends, and families, but they prioritized God and their relationship with Him over all else. The desire of their hearts was neither fame nor fortune; it was not to rub elbows with the powerful or influential of their day but to do the work to which they were called consistently and without the thought of whether it would lead to something more consuming their minds. Be satisfied with where God has placed you, doing the work He has called you to do, because it’s the obedience that He rewards and not the scope of the work itself, for it is better to obey the Lord than to offer sacrifices to Him.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Some deal with loneliness better than others. I revel in solitude; I enjoy it, and a quiet corner where I can read, write, study, and pray is all I really need in order to make me happy or satisfied. I’m not what some might call a social butterfly. I don’t go out of my way to be among other people, and depending on my state of mind and the things that need to get done on a given day, it’s more likely than not that being by my lonesome is preferable. The only exceptions to this generality are my wife and daughters, whom I love spending time with, whether it’s just sitting around the dinner table and reading the Word or playing my oldest daughter’s most recent obsession, Clue.
Each of us deals with being alone differently, and for some
people, the worst possible thing they could think of is being alone with their
thoughts, with no one to talk to and no one to socialize with.
It’s in those moments of quiet and solitude that some of the
most profound insights regarding the Word, the character of God, and the wisdom
of the Bible come to the fore, and were I the only one to insist upon it, you
could wave it off as anecdotal. Going back as far as Paul the apostle, however,
we see that some of the deepest truths he penned were done so from inside a
prison cell. We know from his writings, as well as historical context, that he
wrote his letters to the Ephesians, the Colossians, the Philippians, and
Philemon from prison and that they are some of the most liberating words he
ever put to parchment.
In conversation with those who were incarcerated and
persecuted for the name of Christ, whether they were songwriters, preachers,
teachers of the word, or authors, the running theme has been that their most
substantive and insightful body of work took place when they were in solitary
confinement, in prison, or suffering at the hands of those who would see the
name Jesus expunged from the lips of all in their generation. God is near to
those who are near to Him, and in their seasons of hardship and trial, He is an
ever-present refuge.
Embrace solitude. Make time daily to be alone with God and
tune out all the noise. Do it consistently, and you will see the growth in
intimacy you have with God for yourself. Allowing oneself to be distracted
constantly is one of the quickest ways to watch the fire of your once-burning
love turn to embers. As the adage goes, out of sight, out of mind, and if the
enemy can keep us from pressing in and growing in God if he can distract us
from being in His presence, he might not have won the war, but he’s winning the
battle for our attention. What we do consistently over time will become
habitual, a common practice without which we feel incomplete on a given day.
When we begin our day with God, being in His presence, and reading
His word daily for a prolonged period, the day we fail to do it, we realize
something is amiss even if we didn’t consciously set out to bypass that alone
time. Most men are creatures of habit, and your habits will determine whether
you’re drawing closer to God or slipping further away from Him.
It’s different when you’re suffering, bedridden, or going
through something so emotionally vexing as to curse the day you were born,
however. That’s when you hunger for the presence of another to be there with
you, for you, hopefully taking a bit of the weight off your back and being a
shoulder to cry on.
The beauty of knowing Christ and walking with Him is that
even when we are alone, we are not alone. He is a forever friend, forever
confidant, forever faithful and present, the one we could reach out to knowing
He will be there, and an ever-present comfort and balm. There’s a reason
Christians don’t go to therapy, and it’s not because they’re too rigid or don’t
think that it’s an actual thing, although, let’s be fair, some of the worst
advice I’ve heard came from people with degrees in psychology, but because they
always have someone to confide in, someone at whose feet they can lay their
burdens down.
When you’re given a choice between the peace of God, which
surpasses all understanding, and a scruffy-looking guy in a tweed jacket whose
own life is a steaming mess talking about triggers and repressed memories, it’s
no choice at all. Everyone’s in therapy nowadays, but nobody seems to be
getting any better. They’re medicated to the gills just to get through an ordinary
day, one little pill to make them happy, another to make them sad, and another
to balance them out, never coming to the realization that until they deal with
the root cause of their malaise, they will not improve. It’s the absence of His
presence that’s making them feel as though their lives are in a tailspin when
they’re likely living better than the top one percent of the top one percent in
the world.
When men reject Christ and all that He offers, they try to
find ways and means to counterfeit the peace and joy only He can bring. They hoard
things, seek admiration, obsess over careers, or run to men, hoping they can
fix what only God can because their hearts are hard and darkened, and rather
than humble themselves and come to the foot of the cross in repentance, they’ll
talk themselves into believing that nothing so simple as surrender and obedience
can be the balm or cure for the maelstrom of their hearts.
Until his friends showed up, Job was alone, with the brief respite of his wife insisting that he relinquish the integrity he held onto, curse God, and put an end to the pain. Even at his lowest, God was still present and had Job doubted God’s love for him; he would have likely succumbed to the overwhelming fear of desperation.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Given their actions when they first saw Job from afar, we can intuit that his three friends were also men of faith. They may not have reached Job’s level of uprightness, nor were they blameless in God’s eyes as he was, but they tore their robes and sprinkled dust on their heads toward heaven, an act of brokenness and repentance for the time. This practice would later come to be known as an outward sign of mourning, abasement, and repentance, with men having repented in sackcloth and ashes being mentioned in Daniel, Lamentations, Isaiah, and in the case of Jonah, the whole of Nineveh.
These were likely the predecessors or forerunners of what
became common practice given the timeline of when the Book of Job likely occurred.
Before the books of Moses or the Pentateuch were penned, before the law was
given and Moses descended with the tablets, before the tabernacle or tent of
meeting was erected, there was Job, a blameless and upright man the likes of
which could not be found on the earth.
There’s a reason Job has been relegated to one of those names
we dare not speak or topics we dare not delve into in the modern-day church
because what happened to him, what he went through, and what God allowed in his
life is antithetical to the now tired and overused trope that if you just try
to be a good person all good things will flow into your life, so much so that
you’ll be looking for a spigot to turn it off only to find there isn’t one.
Your Best Life Now sold eight million copies and was number
one for two years straight on the New York Times Self-Help bestseller list.
That it was placed on the self-help list rather than Christianity, religion, or
theology should tell you everything you need to know about its scriptural
integrity, but one look at Job and his life, the trials and travails he went
through as one who was blameless and upright before God is all it takes to turn
the entire tome into little more than Swiss cheese.
Every day may be a Friday for someone raking in millions by
telling people what they want to hear rather than what they need to hear, but
as far as equating prosperity, excess, or material overflow with God’s stamp of
approval and a vociferous declaration that you too are blameless and upright, a
singularity among your fellow man to be looked upon as the pinnacle of
spiritual maturity, that way lies danger as for many it becomes a
self-fulfilling litmus test of walking in a righteousness they do not possess.
Well, no, I haven’t denied myself since that one time I
didn’t order a second dessert, and as far as picking up my cross, I wear silk
suits, and they’re very delicate. I’ll follow Jesus if He leads where I intend
on going in the first place, if His will is in harmony with my own, and our
five-year plans coalesce, but I’ve got stuff. Lots and lots of stuff, and
that’s all the proof I need that I’m doing good, walking right, and have the
faith to manifest my dreams into reality. When did that become the standard?
When did that become the plumb line? When was it that we shifted from humbly
walking with the Lord and working out our salvation with fear and trembling to
using the trappings of this life as proof of our uprightness?
Some of the more shameless among us will be quick to say that
Job didn’t have enough faith because everyone knows it takes faith to activate
prosperity, and once it’s activated, continuity of faith is required to keep
the gravy train chugging along on its biscuit wheels. They use the same
reasoning when it comes to brothers and sisters in Christ who are suffering
untold horrors at the hands of evil men, being persecuted to the point of
martyrdom. It’s not their lack of faith that keeps them clinging to Jesus,
holding fast to their integrity, and trusting in His sovereignty when going
through such horrors, and for anyone to make such an egregious claim tells me
they don’t have the first clue of what it is to walk by faith, fully trusting
in the will of God for their lives.
When is it that we grew so jaded that we will look down upon
and condescend to those who are walking in a realm of faith that few of us can
even conceive? I’ve never been called upon to lay down my life, not just
hypothetically, but in actuality, nor have I had to endure the loss of
everything, but I have enough humility to look upon such individuals as examples
to aspire to rather than cautionary tales I should avoid.
There he goes again, beating up on American Christianity.
That you call it Christianity is in and of itself generous beyond what I am
willing to allow, but beyond that, it’s not just an American problem; it’s a
contemporary Christianity the world over problem, with the exception of nations
where there is active, and ongoing persecution of the church. Such nations may
not have plush seating, air-conditioned sanctuaries, or pastors bragging about their
newest Rolex acquisition, but they do have something the others don’t, which is
the power and presence of God.
They walk into a service or a prayer meeting fully aware that
it may be their last time, or even their last day, accepting the reality that
they may have to suffer or even die for the fellowship others dismiss and are
indifferent toward. It’s not that they’re better believers, but they are
undoubtedly more committed to the way of Christ, given that their faith costs
them something tangible every time they boldly declare that they are willing to
pay the price and incur the wrath of the godless by the outwardly demonstration
of the faith burning in their hearts.
A man can only give away what he already possesses. This goes
for truth, money, a cup of water, or a hot meal. If you don’t have it to give,
then you don’t have it to give, and you’ll give what you have. When the lame
man asked Peter and John for alms as they were about to walk into the temple, Peter
said to him, “Silver and gold I do not have, but what I do have I give you: in
the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, rise up and walk.”
Peter knew what he had. He knew what he possessed and willingly gave it to the lame man, taking him by the hand and lifting him up. We cannot expect certain preachers to give us what they don’t have. If the truth is not in them, if they are not walking in it, then they cannot give it to another. If, to them, faith is merely a quaint notion but not an active, living, substantive, ever-present reality, then they can never understand how true faith can stretch and carry an individual beyond the point of their physical strength, giving them the capacity to endure what most would call impossible. That’s why they avoid the Book of Job like the plague or someone with a cough and a scratchy throat.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Job was not the rock of Gibraltar being beaten by crashing
waves and stoically withstanding it all as though nothing was amiss. He felt
the pain of loss for his ten children, he felt the physical pain of his boils,
and in the time it took for his friends to come to him, he had become
unrecognizable. The memory of what he’d been and what he looked like now was so
different that, to their eyes, it did not seem like the same man.
The same thing happens to each of us when we come to Jesus
but in the inverse. We start out sick and dirty, covered in tattered rags,
lifeless and hollow, and then we encounter Him. He takes a wretch like me and
patiently cleanses me with His blood, restores my soul, clothes me in white
garments, and breathes new life in me. How could I not sing His praises? How
could I not serve Him all the days of my life, knowing what would have been had
He not found me and called me His own?
Throughout the week, we take turns saying grace as we sit
down to dinner. We hold hands as a family, bow our heads, and one of us
proceeds to give thanks to God for His many blessings. When they were younger,
the girls would always start out thanking God for the food, the hands that
prepared it, and the grace of having something to eat when others in the world
might not. As they grew and began to understand who Jesus is and what He did on
the cross, I noticed that both of their prayers changed, and nowadays, more
often than not, they start out by thanking God for sending Jesus. They still
include the food, the heat, and the roof over our heads, but Jesus and His
salvific sacrifice come first.
Even at their tender age, without the benefit of attending seminary
and getting a degree in pastoral studies, they understand the immeasurable gift
we are freely given by the hand of God in that we were once lost, separated
from His love and grace, wandering in the dark and standoffish of the light. It
doesn’t take a genius-level IQ or endless hours of sitting in a classroom to
understand the simple truth of the gospel. Jesus came to set the captives free.
He came to give His life that we might have life, then rose again on the third
day, leaving all who would believe, repent, and follow after Him with the
promise that we would one day be with Him in the place He has prepared, where
every tear will be wiped from our eyes, and everlasting joy will abound.
Historical context is important in understanding both that
Job was now an outcast among his own people, given his painful boils and the perpetual
fear of the time of contracting some incurable disease, and the depth of love
his friends had for him in that they were not concerned or fearful for themselves.
It’s not as though Job had the benefit of modern medicine to determine whether
or not he was contagious. It’s not as though he’d gone out and done a blood panel
to determine what he was suffering from. It’s not as though his friends were
presented with a clean bill of health before they sat down with him for seven
days and seven nights, and for all they knew, they could have contracted the
same malady he suffered from if they breathed the same air or were around him
for a prolonged period of time.
Whether they took the possibility of getting sick themselves
into account, we will never know, but what is clearly written is that when his
three friends saw the state Job was in, they lifted their voices and wept, and
each one tore his robe and sprinkled dust on his head toward heaven. They cried
out for mercy on behalf of their friend, given that it was the only thing they
could do.
We know what man is capable of and the lengths to which he will
go if he feels as though his health or his life are in danger. To this day, I
still see people driving around by themselves with face diapers firmly secured
to their faces, although it's rarer now than it was two years ago. Imagine
living in a time before the ability to determine what someone was suffering from,
before electricity or WebMD, before Urgent Care, and the encyclopedia of diseases
and disorders.
Imagine seeing a friend you once knew as strong and vibrant,
now unrecognizable, sitting on an ash pile, covered in painful boils from head
to toe, not knowing if coming close to him will bring you to the same state. We
cannot dismiss the depth of love Job’s friends had for him. We can’t wave it
off and say it doesn’t count unless we try to put ourselves in their situation
and determine whether we would have done likewise. These three men likely had
families of their own, wives and children, servants and acquaintances, and the
thought that not only would they catch what Job had but spread it to their
loved ones, in turn, must have come to the fore at some point. Even so, they
sat down with him on the ground for seven days and seven nights.
When we look at this event through the prism of the
spiritual, we can’t help but notice some deeper truths. Jesus will sit with you
at your lowest when all others have abandoned you, when the world has shunned
you, and those you called friends will do everything they can to avoid you.
Even in your mess, your pain, in the disfigurement sin has wrought upon your
countenance, He will sit on the ground with you in the hope of lifting you up
out of the dust and ash and bringing you to a new understanding of life, most
notably that it doesn’t end when you go back to the dust, but that it continues
into eternity with only two possible destinations.
We choose to either take His outstretched hand and humble ourselves to the point of letting Him do on our behalf what we could have never done on our own or resign ourselves to the idea that all there is is ash and dust, and painful boils, and His promise of restoration and wholeness is nothing more than a fable. Call it a fable, call it a lie, call it a fanciful tale akin to spaghetti monsters, but I know what I know, I’ve felt what I’ve felt, I know Him as my Lord, my King, and my Savior, and nothing anyone says can sway me from what I know to be true.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Job had true friends because he was a true friend in kind. When the three men heard of his troubles, they didn’t shrug their shoulders and say it was well deserved or that it’s what you get for being a double-dealing weasel; they made a plan to visit Job and mourn with him in his time of travail.
Sometimes, people will say behind your back what they
wouldn’t dare say to your face. Their true heart, feelings, and what they think
of you come out when a third party delivers news to them regarding something
that’s happened to you because you’re not there, and they don’t have to put on
airs.
Sometimes, the response by someone who was supposed to be a
friend of another to their predicament is so vitriolic and hate-filled as to
shock you into silence. Because I used to travel back and forth to Romania a
lot, back before the time of Zoom calls and instant messages, I’d be used as
what I’d come to affectionately call a news mule. Everyone in church knew I was
planning a trip, so they’d come by the apartment with either a letter, a small
package, or a pair of shoes and ask if I would be so kind as to deliver these
things to family and friends. It got to the point that I’d barely have room for
a pair of pants and a shirt in my allotted two seventy-pound suitcases because
if you say yes to one person, you have to say yes to everyone else; otherwise,
they’ll infer some nefarious reason as to why you said no, or think you harbor
ill will toward them.
People will take advantage of your kind nature if they can,
and if you give an inch, they’ll take a mile. If you say you’re willing to
deliver a letter to their grandmother, they’ll show up with a forty-pound audio
mixing board and even give you instructions to pack it well and make sure it
doesn’t get damaged en route. Have you seen how they throw suitcases onto those
carts at the airport? I’m not guaranteeing that it will make it in one piece,
never mind that it will function when it gets there.
Eventually, it got to the point that I was running an amateur
DHL service without getting paid every time I’d go back to the homeland, and I
realized the easiest way out of my predicament was to not tell anyone I was
planning a trip, or when I was going back, and just like that, I had enough
room in my suitcases for my own changes of clothing.
During one such trip, the mother of a man I knew in church
asked me to pass on some news about one of his neighborhood friends who’d
gotten into an accident and had to have their leg amputated because it was too
badly mangled and couldn’t be saved. I’d gotten into the habit of always
carrying a notebook with me because it was just too much to keep track of in my
brain, so I wrote it down and who it was meant for. When I got back home after
a Sunday service, I went up to him and gave him the news that his mother had
asked me to pass on.
I don’t know what had transpired between the two men, but it
was evident that his mother was not in the loop because after telling him of
his friend’s troubles, he just shrugged his shoulders and said, sometimes we
get what we deserve. I just stood there with my mouth half open, not able to
think of anything to say. Even if they’d had a falling out, his reaction and
response was needlessly cruel, and it made me see him in a whole new light.
One’s true friends are revealed in times of trouble. Job’s
friends heard, and their first reaction was to come to be with him, comfort
him, and mourn with him. They didn’t send flowers or a card; they went out of
their way and put their lives on hold to travel to where Job was and see what,
if anything, they could do to help him in his moment of need.
Job 2:12-13, “And when they raised their eyes from afar, and
did not recognize him, they lived their voices and wept; and each one tore his
robe and sprinkled dust on his head toward heaven. So they sat down with him on
the ground seven days and seven nights, and no one spoke a word to him, for
they saw that his grief was very great.”
These three men did something Job’s own brothers hadn’t,
which was to come to him and be with him in his time of devastation. Yes, Job
had brothers; we are told this in the latter chapters of the book, but the only
people to show up were these three friends. Surely, Job had helped a multitude
of people closer to home along the way. He was, after all, a generous man who
gave freely of his goods, yet none came to offer words of comfort in his grief.
He was forgotten and dispensed with as soon as they saw nothing they could
benefit from him by way of the material.
When doing a kindness to someone, whether a stranger or a
friend, it’s instinctual to expect reciprocity, or at the least gratitude. Sometimes,
you don’t get either, and this is why we are commanded to do all things as unto
the Lord, knowing that He keeps track of it all and will reward us in due season.
If we are generous or magnanimous because we expect accolades or for someone to
return the favor, we’re doing it for the wrong reasons anyway and will have no
part of the reward we otherwise would have had.
Choose your friends wisely. It is advice I’ve received over
the years from various gray-haired souls, and I’ve taken it to heart. Too many
nowadays let people who ought not to be into their inner circle just to boast that
they have so many friends. I’m neither cold nor standoffish, but it takes me a
while to call someone my friend because I have to know that they truly are. Once
that occurs, and I call someone my friend, I’m as loyal as a shelter-rescued
pit bull. Yes, that type of loyalty has come back to bite me when those to
which I’d shown loyalty did not reciprocate in kind, but I know of no other way
to be.
What remains after the fire of testing is the only thing of eternal value we possess. It’s one of those hard truths we learn individually, even though the Word makes it clear this is the case. Some will toil their entire lives only to discover it was all vanity, having only a fistful of ashes and a mountain of regrets to show for the life they lived, while others will reap the reward of having built something that endures.
If what energizes and animates us is something other than the
Kingdom of God, if what we pursue are the fleeting things of this life rather
than those which hold an eternal weight of glory, once the passing things of
earth go the way of dust, all we are left with is the foreboding reality that
we’ve squandered the time we were given in pursuit of worthless things.
When we consistently prioritize our relationship with Jesus
and build up our most holy faith throughout our lives, when the fire of testing
comes, those things will remain while the dross will be burned away. It is in
those moments that we discover He is enough, He is sufficient, and everything else
was but a vapor, something that is here today and gone tomorrow with no
permanence or continuity into eternity.
What is the purpose of your life here on earth? That is the ever-present
question that should determine what we commit our time and resources to on a
daily basis. If my purpose is an eternity in His presence, if the desire of my
heart is to hear “Well done, good and faithful servant,” then all that I do and
all that I am will be focused on that singular goal. When my goal is firmly
established, I will intuitively know what serves as a distraction when it appears.
I will know that whatever the thing is, whether it is a new hobby, a new job, a
new friendship, or a new goal, noble as these things might be, they are trying
to take away from the time I’ve been given to pursue Him.
Some things can’t be avoided. We all need to eat, so we all
have to work. Human connection is part of life, so we all need friends, but
through it all, we must still be aware that time is slipping away and the
desire to remove ourselves from the hustle and bustle of life and be alone with
Him and in His presence must be ever-present.
When I first started courting my wife, whenever we would
part, I couldn’t wait until the next time I saw her. There was an expectation and
anticipation of a future encounter, to the point that I couldn’t wait for the
night to end, the sun to rise, and for me to pick her up and take her to breakfast
just so we could talk or hold hands again.
This is the type of mindset we must nurture when it comes to spending
time in God’s presence. I wake up every morning excited about the prospect of
spending a few hours alone with God before everyone wakes up and the business
of life begins anew, from packing lunches for the girls, taking them to school,
answering e-mails, paying bills, and everything else that goes along with
existing entails.
If the desire of your heart is to spend time with God, you
will find the time. If it’s not, then every other breath will provide a fresh
excuse to put it off, delay it, or ignore it altogether.
There are also moments in life when we get so busy that it
seems as though we’re running on an endless hamster wheel just to keep up.
Then, suddenly, something happens, and everything comes to a standstill. At
first, we wonder why such a thing could happen to us, why God would allow it
since He knows how busy we are, and that we need to have the energy to work
those eighteen-hour days, but the more we grow, and the more mature we become,
we see those events for what they are, a loving reminder that God misses us,
and we should miss Him, and there’s nothing like being bedridden for a couple of
days to give us the time to reacquaint ourselves with Him.
When we look at life’s events through the prism of human
reason or logic and don’t apply a spiritual filter to them, we often miss out
on the lesson God is trying to teach us or the true purpose of what it is we’re
going through. I often made the same mistake in my younger years, especially
when it came to the constant gout attacks I’d have in my early twenties. If you
happen to have gout, then you know. If you don’t have it, you can’t imagine.
Just thank the Lord that you don’t, and believe me when I tell you that you are
being spared a pain akin to childbirth.
I tried everything from diet to cherry extract to drinking
enough water to drown a small village, all to no avail. Every few months, I’d
get a flare-up, and I’d be out of circulation for a week or more. I even got a prescription
for allopurinol at one point, but it just made it worse, and I didn’t like the
way it made me feel.
Then it was my mom, of all people, who said something that made
me pause and look at the situation from a different angle: “Maybe God’s trying to
tell you something.” That was it. Six words that changed my life for the
better. I thought about what she said, looked back on the times I’d gotten
sidelined by my gout, and realized it was usually during the moments in life
when I was so focused on other things that I failed to make enough time for God.
Although correlation is not causation, and my experience is anecdotal,
I can attest that after making that mind shift and prioritizing spending time
with God over anything else that might be happening in my life, I haven’t had a
gout attack since. God chastens those He loves, and the purpose thereof is always
to draw us closer to Him.
Our need for God must extend beyond the moments when we have a problem only He can fix to every day and every hour of our lives. We must understand that without Him, without His presence in our lives and His being established on the thrones of our hearts, we have nothing.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Often, it’s what’s staring us in the face that we seem not to notice or appreciate until it’s gone, whether it’s snatched away suddenly or slips through our fingers incrementally until it is no more. Perhaps it’s because we’re used to it, or take it for granted, or because we feel as though we are entitled to whatever it may be to a certain extent. I wake up in the morning, come downstairs, brew some coffee, and get to work, only aware of how I’m feeling, if something is off, or if my joints are achy because it’s been raining all night. I don’t wake up and consciously appreciate it when I’m feeling fine, and nothing is clicking or popping like someone was snapping celery by hand.
While during the days of Job, there was no church or
household of faith as a support system during his time of hardship, we have the
grace of brothers and sisters in Christ, members of His body, who will come
alongside us in prayer when we need them most. At least, that’s the way it
should be.
There are a multitude of reasons we were exhorted not to
forsake the assembling of ourselves together, and allowing for the rest of the
body to be there for us when we are weak, wounded, or on the brink of despair
is one of them. A fractured body is a weakened body, and a weakened body is
easy prey for the enemy who prowls and seeks to devour.
Because most of us have gone through seasons of hardship and
can appreciate the importance of having someone to lean on, we reciprocate in
kind when another within the body is being buffeted and are quick to be a
comfort and a means of encouragement to them as well. It doesn’t matter what
body part is hurting, whether the toe you stubbed on a side table because your
kids moved it just a smidge and your muscle memory told you the way was clear
or your head because one of those occasional migraines you get decided to pay
you a visit. Pain in one area ripples throughout your body and affects it in
its entirety.
I am well aware that it’s challenging to find a church body
that preaches the Word, feeds the soul, and lives out the gospel as it should
nowadays. I’m not ignorant of this reality, but just because something is
difficult, it doesn’t make it impossible, and rather than give up, stop
looking, and resign ourselves to going at it alone, we must be diligent in
making the quest of finding people to fellowship with a priority in our lives.
You’re never going to find a perfect church full of perfect
people. If such a church existed, I’d likely be the odd man out because I am
far from perfect, as is everyone else. The problem, as I see it, is that many people
have a laundry list of expectations of what a church should offer before they
get to biblical teaching. It has to have a good children’s program, a modern
building, comfortable seats, pizza nights, stirring praise and worship, an
affable, well-groomed pastor, service under forty-five minutes, and multiple services,
so if I miss the first and the second one, the third is still an option, no
more than five minutes from my house, an overall positive vibe, and the list
goes on.
All these things must be secondary concerns, paling in comparison
to the primary concern, which is whether or not the Word is being rightly
divided, the Bible is being taught, and the focus is on Christ and the cross. Well,
yes, I found a church that preaches the whole counsel of God, but it’s small, and
the seats are uncomfortable. Then your purpose wasn’t the truth in and of
itself, but rather your comfort or the need to attach yourself to something the
world deems a success. We place more value on the things that don’t matter than
on the one thing that does because if the teaching isn’t biblical, then nothing
else that particular church might have on offer is beneficial to your spiritual
man.
When we compare and contrast the time of Job with our current
generation and see the many blessings and graces we have as opposed to them, we
come to realize that there is no excuse or justification for our lukewarm state
or our unwillingness to pursue righteousness with all the gusto of a starving
man seeing a banquet laid out before him. We have the Word, which Job did not
have; we have the body of Christ, which Job did not have; we have the freedom to
worship God in spirit and truth, which others throughout the world today do not
enjoy, yet we are indifferent to it all, focusing on the things of this earth
and the baseless promises sleazy snake oil salesmen continue to make to the
gullible when all evidence is pointing to the contrary.
When we fix our eyes upon the Lord and make Him the desire of
our heart, when His truth is established therein, our focus and energy are
spent on building up the spiritual man rather than earthly kingdoms, and the
things men covet and seek after will be as dull baubles, used and broken toys
left in a box gathering dust with no inherent value.
It is Satan’s good pleasure to draw our attention away from knowing
Jesus, denying ourselves, and picking up our crosses, and he is quick to point
to the worthless, insisting that they are the priceless treasures we seek. The
reason he keeps at it is because it works. A myriad of souls stumble in their
walk, get distracted, and go off chasing fool’s gold, believing that it will
satisfy their soul when nothing but the presence of God can.
Those who have tasted the goodness of the Lord know that nothing
compares to it. Those who have known the transformative power of His presence
in their lives understand that He is sufficient no matter their current
circumstance or lot in life. Seek Him, and you will find Him. Pursue Him, and
your pursuit will not be in vain, for if you open the door of your heart, He
will come in, and your life, beyond this life, will be forever changed.
Revelation 3:20-21, “Behold, I stand at the door and knock.
If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine
with him, and he with Me. To him who overcomes I will grant to sit with Me on
My throne, as I also overcame and sat down with My Father on His throne.”
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
The biggest lie currently circulating and making its way through the general consciousness like some malignant poison is that a man who shakes hands with ghosts wanders off into the woods and is only concerned about his next diaper change and the flavor of ice cream he will enjoy once the afternoon rolls around is somehow in charge, or making decisions that could potentially lead to the escalation of an already volatile and drawn out conflict, and the very real probability of a full scale, all-out world war.
It’s like having an aging grandparent who’s been missing a
step or five and putting them in charge of retrofitting the gas line coming
into the house while the rest of the family is in the basement planning their retirement
party. He was never good at such things, even on his best day, but now, in his
twilight, when more often than not he forgets his own name and has extended
bouts of senility, is when we put him in charge of something that could turn
the entire home into ash and rubble in five seconds flat.
It’s not so much that it beggars belief. It’s more akin to
shattering it all together, asking the world to believe something demonstrably fallacious
with a straight face. We’re expected to suspend reality and believe that he is
the decider when it’s likely the only thing he’s decided over the last few
years is the flavor of ice cream he’d get in his waffle cone.
Apparently, it’s only when the cameras are on that the man
seems lost in space and time. Turn them off, and you’ve got one sharp cookie
who understands the inner workings and dynamics of global politics to the point
that he concluded the only way to peace is through war and escalation of a
conflict that was weeks away from being resolved diplomatically.
Ever since the day after the elections when we got the results
faster than anyone would dare hope, and the most hated man in Washington got a
mandate to try and dismantle the machine, I’ve stated, and repeatedly so that
it’s too quiet. Something was off, felt strange, and barring the handful of
women who’ve taken to shaving their heads on Tic Toc and swearing off the
intimacy they were never likely to be the recipients of in the first place and
the talking heads who accused half the country of deep seeded misogyny, racism,
ageism, sexism, and every other ism you could think of, everything seemed
relatively peaceful.
I got that same sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach when
my kids have been upstairs for half an hour, with nary a peep to be heard. Sure,
the quiet is a nice respite, but it’s also foreboding, and even though every
ounce of me wants to enjoy it for a few more minutes, I know I have to go and
check on them.
With less than two months to go before he has to vacate the
office and enjoy his ice cream in Delaware rather than DC, the man who never
saw a shadow he didn’t threaten has decided to give Ukraine the green light to
use American-made long-range missiles to attack Russia. This is a departure
from this administration’s previous position, but elections have consequences,
and if the consequence of having chosen not to descend into full-blown
Communism and rejecting globalism is full-scale war, none of the octogenarians
on the Hill seem to be overly bothered by it.
The instant Ukraine got the green light to escalate, they did
so, and reports are coming in that an American missile was used against a
military depot in Russia. What the world is currently banking on and hoping for
is Russian restraint, wherein they don’t reciprocate in kind and drag the rest
of Europe into this conflict, a conflict that all parties acknowledged was
likely to end with some sort of peace deal within days of the man who took on
Corn Pop was to vacate the oval office.
Feral animals are at their most dangerous when they are
cornered. Even with the uptick in business by the paper shredding trucks, there’s
still a lot of dirt that those who’ve been in power for decades, pulling strings,
and doing things that would turn the stomach of the most hardened of criminals,
don’t ever want to see the light of day.
We are in uncharted territory, and the next few weeks will be
very telling indeed. The worst thing you can do to the powerful is threaten
their power. Because the narcissism of power is such that the only thing the
individual in question is concerned with is himself and his influence, he will
readily barter the lives of others and his own nation’s safety and security if
he believes there is a chance to retain it.
This mindset is not exclusive to one side of the political aisle
or the other. There is bipartisanship when it comes to protecting one’s self-interests,
even if it comes at the cost of the lives and safety of those they are supposed
to represent. If you thought we were out of the woods, one objective look will
tell you we’re still deep in the forest. This is not the time to rest on our
laurels or take a victory lap. It is a time to be watchful and sober, trusting
God in all things and knowing where our help comes from. Spoiler alert: it’s
not government!
“And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our Lives, our Fortunes, and our sacred Honor.” If only.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Job 2:11, “Now when Job’s three friends heard of all this adversity that had come upon him, each one came from his own place – Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite, and Zophar the Naamathite. For they had made an appointment together to come and mourn with him, and to comfort him.”
Bad news travels fast. It’s one of those truisms that has
been around for ages, and it will continue to make the rounds because it’s so
relatable. If one person shares good news with another, it’s likely to stay
between them. I’ve rarely, if ever, heard someone say, “Did you hear the good
thing that happened to so and so? I’m so happy for him!” If it’s ever said, it’s
usually with a tinge of envy or a rolling of the eyes, as though the person was
unworthy or undeserving of that good thing because unregenerate human nature is
biased, vindictive, jealous, envious, and rarely do you find someone who is
genuinely happy about another’s success.
If, perchance, success finds someone, and another happens to
be in their inner circle, the first thought crossing their mind isn’t that they
deserve it because they’ve worked hard for it, but how they could profit from it
themselves, whether to ride their coattails or siphon off as much as they can
in as short a time as they can.
We’ve all heard the stories of musicians who found success
and suddenly had an entourage of fifty people following them everywhere until
they fell on hard times, couldn’t afford the entourage anymore, and discovered
who their true friends were in real-time. If anyone calling themselves your
friend is only there for the feasting, but come the hard days they disappear into
the ether, they were never your friend to begin with. It’s one of those painful
but necessary lessons we learn as we grow older.
Job had been a fortunate man, not only in that God blessed
the work of his hands but that by all available evidence, he had true friends.
As the saying goes, if you have one true friend in life, you’re fortunate; if
you have two, you’re blessed; and if you have three, you’re highly favored.
Anything beyond that, and you’re just fooling yourself.
News didn’t travel so fast back in the day, yet somehow, Job’s
friends had heard of his adversity. Nowadays, we have Facebook, so everyone’s
business, whether good or bad, is out there, like so much laundry hanging on
the line, for people to peruse and either shrug their shoulders, shake their
heads, or roll their eyes. It’s okay to keep some things to yourself. It really
is. Whether it’s because some people have become addicted to attention,
sympathy, or the praying hands emoji, most today tend to overshare, especially
when it comes to situations that need to be dealt with personally and not in
the public eye.
Does the entire world really need to know that your wife made
you scrambled eggs when you asked for an omelet this morning? I didn’t think
so. Eat the eggs, be grateful, thank her for doing it, and get on with your
day.
It seems as though Social Media allows us to revert back to
our childhoods when we whined and complained about everything, whether valid or
imagined. I get that it’s a release or a way to vent, but you’re not doing
yourself any favors by crying wolf about every little thing to the point that
people just ignore you altogether.
But if they were real friends, they wouldn’t ignore me!
Honestly, how many times can someone read that you were disappointed by the
quality of the avocados you purchased at the local grocery store, even though
they were discounted and looked like their best days were behind them? You live
in North Dakota. To the best of my knowledge, it doesn’t even crack the top ten
of the best places to grow or find fresh avocados. Granted, it’s been a minute
since I’ve seen an updated list, but unless something has changed dramatically,
I still think I’m right about this.
Job was well known enough throughout the land, and his
situation was so cataclysmic that without the aid of telephones, telegraphs,
interwebs, e-mail, snail mail, or CB Radio, news of his demise traveled far and
wide, so much so that his three friends heard of it and decided to come to mourn
with him. That’s how we know they were true friends and not just friends in
name only.
It’s likely they weren’t neighbors or even lived close by
because they actually had to make plans to come visit Job, making an effort and
going out of their way hoping they could be a comfort, or in the least, mourn
with their friend.
Their reaction to hearing the news of what Job was going
through says a lot about their character, as well as Job’s. If he’d been a fair-weather
friend to them, they would have reciprocated in kind. Because he’d been a true
friend to them, they went to be by his side and be there for him in his time of
need and despondency. Be the kind of friend you’d like to have, and you will have
that kind of friend. Reciprocity is demonstrably real, whether in a friendship,
a marriage, or our relationship with God. The more we draw close to Him, the
more He draws close to us. The more we value and cherish our wives or husbands,
the more they will cherish us because most people mirror behavior without even
being aware of it.
It’s easier by far to have expectations of everyone else
around us than to have the self-awareness to look at ourselves and see if we
are living up to our own standards. This goes beyond friendships to every area
of our lives, wherein we expect of others what we ourselves fall short of, yet
sit in judgment over them because they failed our litmus test. Rather than constantly
pointing out how someone could have been a better friend in a given situation,
perhaps it's time to ask if we could have been better friends as well—just a thought.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Sometimes, the best thing we can do in a given situation is to keep silent. I realize this goes against our instincts, perhaps even against our nature because everyone has to have an opinion about everything, and if you don’t have an opinion, they’ll have an opinion as to why you don’t have an opinion.
Unsolicited advice is everywhere, and the more you try to
tune it out, the louder it gets because those offering it think they can
whittle you down to the point that you go along with whatever they’re saying
just to make them stop talking.
We have to make the requisite allowances for the fact that
Job’s wife was likewise feeling, heretofore, unfelt depths of pain. She’d just
lost all ten of her children as well; the life she’d known up until days ago
was smashed to smithereens, and her husband, the father of her children and the
protector, provider, and overseer of a vast, well-oiled homestead which spanned
hundreds of souls and thousands of livestock lay in ruin, covered in painful
boils, scratching at himself while sitting atop an ash heap.
Respect is one of the most important virtues one spouse must
possess for the other, and it must be a reciprocal act. I can hear the eyebrows
arching, see the wagging fingers, and the need to give in to the desire to
write me a quick note, insisting that love is the most important virtue. In my
defense, I said respect is one of the most important virtues, but beyond that,
if there’s no love in a marriage, then any respect one might emote is feigned
and situational and is tethered to a hidden motive of some kind.
Come June of next year, I will have been married for a
quarter of a century. Said marriage produced two wonderful daughters, as well
as the requisite moments of joy, pain, laughter, tears, jubilation, and
anxiety. Through it all, we were there for each other, sharing in the joy and
the sorrow, with mutual respect being the cornerstone upon which trust, value,
and self-sacrifice were built.
The easiest way to navigate life’s storms and keep from crashing
against the rocky outcroppings is to put God first in every area of your life, and
that includes marriage. It is something we discussed at length before getting
married and something we committed to from the outset. The question was never
about what was best for our situation or what could help us get ahead as a new
family, but what the will of God was for us and where He needed us to be. It’s
something both parties have to agree with and commit to. Otherwise, there will
be tension, there will be arguments, and it’s hard to make progress when one
individual is pulling to the left and the other is pulling to the right.
Whether Job’s wife lost respect for him or not, I cannot say
with certainty, but her reaction to seeing him in his current condition hints
at the probability that she did. She saw a once strong, assertive, decisive
man, seemingly in control of everything around him, reduced to little more than
a homeless beggar covered in boils. At the time, for fear of contracting
whatever the malady was, the individual in question would be removed to the
outskirts of the city and left alone to live out the rest of their days in
solitude. Whether it was leprosy or boils, the sufferer would be shunned by
society and forced into isolation for fear of the disease spreading.
Job’s wife being used by the enemy and her continuing to have
love for him in her heart are not mutually exclusive. Two ideas can be true at
the same time, so it’s not so much that she stopped loving him or thinking of
him as her husband, but in the moment, she allowed herself to be used by Satan
for the nefarious purpose of insisting that he curse God and die.
Satan wanted to prove God wrong. He wanted to be able to
return anew when the sons of God were gathered together, gloat at having broken
Job, and pressured him to the point of sinning against God in some way. We
clearly see the lengths to which he was willing to go to accomplish his plan,
so the idea that he whispered in Job’s wife’s ear to encourage him to cease
holding onto his integrity and to curse God isn’t just a possibility but highly
probable.
When you understand the lengths to which the enemy of your
soul will go to plant bitterness or rebellion in your heart, it will make you
cling to Jesus all the more. All he needs is a moment of weakness, a chink in
your armor, something he can leverage and use to get you to take your eyes off
Christ and the cross and think you can beat back the enemy all on your own.
Most of us are predisposed to speak first and think later. It’s
not a noble virtue, and it’s something I’ve dealt with for the better part of
my life, especially since the girls were old enough to walk, climb, and hang
onto things they shouldn’t be hanging onto. Even after repeatedly telling them
not to climb the tree in the backyard or try to do somersaults off the kitchen
counter, they’d still do it and end up with a bruise or a knot on their forehead.
I had to fight the urge to say, “I told you so!” because it was neither the
time nor the place for it. It’s what I wanted to say; it was on the tip of my
tongue, but I could see the tears in their eyes and the pain they were in, and
I knew that what they needed at that moment was comfort, a hug, and someone to
ask if they were okay.
We can be brutal and coldhearted when it comes to another’s
suffering, kicking them while they’re down or making it about ourselves, insisting
that we warned them, told them, pleaded with them not to do what they did that
got them in the situation they were in, but sometimes it’s best to bite our
tongue, say nothing, and weep with those who weep.
Don’t allow yourself to be used of the enemy to shred another’s last ounce of hope by insisting that they abandon it altogether and give in to the despair. Be wise in your counsel, and know when, rather than counsel, the person just needs a shoulder to cry on.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Some would readily wither on the vine, merely contemplating
Job’s trials, never mind going through them. We all have our version of what
tragedy, adversity, hardship, and calamity may look like in our mind’s eye, and
the limits of my imagination may be different than yours, and yours may be
different than another’s.
Depending on where you grew up, how you grew up, and the type
of difficulty you had to overcome, not finding the right brand of cereal at the
local grocer can seem like an unbearable and unduly cruel hardship. If you
happen to tell someone who had to eat tree bark as a kid just to keep their
stomach from growling that the Piggly Wiggly was out of Grape Nuts and it
ruined your day, they’re likely to roll their eyes and think some less than
kind things about your affirmation.
It’s all a matter of context and previous experience, but
wherever you land on the spectrum of what you believe true suffering to be, we
can all agree that Job is the gold standard. Whatever trivial thing I may be
going through on a given day, from a flat tire or the car not starting to getting
stuck in traffic for an hour on an ordinary Tuesday, all I have to do is bring
to mind the things Job endured to feel a sense of gratefulness wash over me and
repent for considering such things hardships worthy of bemoaning.
For the last three decades and change, I’ve traveled back and
forth to Romania consistently. Less so since the girls were born, but my little
brother was there to pick up the slack, so I didn’t feel the need to leave my
wife and children in order to go and do what someone else could. The ministry
began as an outreach to the poor, abandoned, and forgotten of Romania, and
although we have broadened our work to include Ukraine of late, the core of our
mission statement remains intact. We feed the hungry, clothe the naked, and look
after the orphan and the widow to the best of our ability. In so doing, I have
come to realize that my definition of poverty is someone else’s definition of
wealth and prosperity.
It’s hard to be bitter about having to buy a second-hand car
or clothes from a thrift store when you’re daily hearing stories from people
not knowing if they’ll survive the coming winter because they have no firewood
and no means with which to purchase some. Unless you are made of stone, it
changes your perspective about how blessed you are and that countless millions
worldwide dream of the life you currently despise and deem cumbersome and
needlessly cruel.
I’m not trying to lay a guilt trip on anyone; I’m speaking
for myself. There are a myriad of daily graces and blessings I take for
granted, from decent health to a roof over my head to the ability to work and
earn enough, wherein I don’t have to be fearful about my children freezing to
death. These are not things I am entitled to or deserve, yet on a certain
level, I feel as though will always be there in some form or fashion.
The attitude of gratitude we must possess is not something
naturally occurring in the human heart. It is something that must be nurtured
and encouraged to grow, and in so doing, it keeps the desire for more or the
tendency to compare our lot to those who have more by way of the material at
bay.
A couple of years back, shortly after they started attending
classes in person again, I noticed my daughters were coming home with stories
of what the other kids in their class had been gifted or the new toys their
parents had acquired, to the point that every week someone had gotten a new
doll house, a pony, a new car, or were planning a vacation somewhere exotic.
There was always a tinge of expectation or a questioning look in their eyes as
to why we weren’t doing the same, and it was largely the reason my wife and I
decided to take a family trip to Romania, so they could see the other side of
life, and hopefully learn to appreciate what they had and not envy what others
did.
For the two weeks we were there, I took my daughters and my
dad, and we went out to numerous villages, passing out food packages, clothing,
and finances where needed, and they got to see true poverty in a way very few
in our Western culture get to do. Young as they were, they were able to make
the connection between the life they lived, with running water, indoor
plumbing, electricity, and something to eat always within reach, and the
lengths to which others have to go just to survive.
I could see the shift in their mindset and the change in
their outlook. It was a transformative experience for them. They went from
asking when they could get a new toy some girl at school had just gotten to giving
their stuffies to children their age who had no more to play with than a rusty
bucket and a stick.
Perspective matters. It allows us to be thankful for the
things God has given us rather than be envious of others who have more. Even in
our hardship, our suffering, or our testing, though it may seem unbearable to
us, we must acknowledge that others have been where we are, and they had to
endure far worse, yet they persevered.
Given the examples and testimonies of those who came before
us, rather than bemoaning our current lot, our time would be far better spent
discovering how men such as Job endured all that came upon him while remaining
faithful, retaining his integrity, and not growing disillusioned, bitter, or
disheartened.
Once you know how something is done, you can replicate it, using the same means to achieve the same result. First, Job knew the God he served intimately and profoundly. Second, Job trusted the God he served and His sovereignty throughout. Third, Job clung to his faith and hope regardless of the situation he found himself in, knowing the goodness of God, even when his life was reduced to a pile of ash and a potsherd.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Job’s integrity was an observable virtue. It was not cloaked or hidden, or something you had to search high and low for, but readily seen to the point that his wife pointed out the fact that he still held onto it after his life came crashing down around him. It’s very likely his wife wasn’t the only one to notice. Whether the servants who survived, his neighbors or those who interacted with him regularly, his current steadfastness and preservation of his integrity only confirmed to them what they already knew of the man.
That said, it wasn’t something he actively sought to exude,
something he thought about, or something he focused on. This is an important
distinction because far too many try to put on airs, pretending to be
spiritual, thinking it’s the image people want them to project. In some
instances, they need to project an image rather than who they are authentically
because they are presenting themselves as spiritual authorities rather than
genuinely desire to serve God and be one of His children both in word and deed.
When you see an individual playing at being spiritual or
having integrity instead of genuinely possessing these virtues, there’s always
something that seems off, a bit odd, with that not quite authentic feel to it.
It’s reminiscent of politicians pretending to be human, smiling awkwardly,
pretending to grill burgers on a grill with no flame, or biting babies for
whatever reason. Their humanity is not naturally occurring. They are not
genuine and take their cues from those around them as to how a real human with
real emotions should act.
That which is in the heart of a man will shape his character,
his attitude, and the way he interacts with those around him. If God is on the
throne of his heart, then his actions will speak for themselves. He won’t need
to carry a bullhorn around and insist that he is a prophet, an apostle, or a
man of God; his attitude will show it without him having to trumpet it to
anyone within earshot.
Whenever someone tries to draw more attention to themselves
than to the God they serve, it’s always a warning sign. We are here for the
sole purpose of pointing the way to Jesus and telling anyone who would hear
that He is the way, the truth, and the life. It’s not about us or our ego, it’s
not about us and our pride, it’s not about what we can do but what He’s already
done.
When we humble ourselves in the sight of the Lord, and
faithfully pick up our crosses and follow after Him, it is He who will raise us
up. It’s not something we need to try and do on our own or by ourselves because
that is not the purpose of the exercise; that’s not the reason you were called to
serve. We’ve lost sight of the reality that a servant is not greater than his
Master, and there’s an ongoing, evermore violent scramble for the spotlight
nowadays, wherein men will actively try to tear down another in the hopes of
being elevated themselves.
If someone is teaching aberrant doctrine, they must be called
out. If, however, you begin to undermine an individual just because you feel as
though he’s encroaching on your slice of the pie, your heart is not in the
right place, and you’re not doing it for the glory of God.
There is also this tendency among the sheep to pit shepherds
against each other and try to get them to start slinging mud. I’ve often been
asked what I think of certain individuals within ministry, and every time this
happens, my focus is always on whether they are teaching the truth of
Scripture. I’m not concerned about their delivery or eccentricities or whether
they wear suits or sweaters when they preach. My only concern is whether or not
they are teaching the salvific truth of the gospel of Christ, and if they are,
God bless them. I hope the Lord gives them strength, endurance, and a bigger
platform than what they already have to do the work of the Kingdom.
Trying to protect, defend, or otherwise elevate something that
isn’t yours to begin with is wasted energy and a horrible use of one’s time.
Although a former president was wrong when he said, “You didn’t build that,” in
relation to individuals who started businesses and built them up, if he’d been
referencing ministries or the work of God, he would have been spot on. I don’t
care how big your ministry is or how many campuses your church has; you didn’t
build that! If you insist that it was you, that you built it and made it grow,
then God wasn’t in it, and it wasn’t His work. You can’t have it both ways. It’s
either God’s work, and He builds it to a size He desires, or it’s your work,
and God’s not in it, and you’re off on your own, doing your own thing, using God
as a foil for your aspirations and goals.
On the other side of it, Job didn’t pretend as though he wasn’t
hurting or that he wasn’t feeling the pain attributed to losing his children
and being covered in painful boils. He didn’t put on a brave face and pretend
as though what was happening to him wasn’t. When Jesus said we shouldn’t have a
sad countenance, it was within the context of fasting, not within the context
of feeling sadness, pain, or hardship.
The difference between how those of the world and those of
the household of faith process and go through affliction and heartache is that
while the world does so alone, we do so anchored in hope, whether the hope that
we will one day be reunited with our love ones, or that God has a plan we are
currently unable to see. Having gone through my fair share of heartache, I can
testify that hope makes the difference, and it is a sure comfort we can cling
to even in the worst of times.
Because we know the God we serve, because we know He is with
us, because we know that He will make a way and that the valley will soon give
way to the mountaintop, we hold fast to our integrity, we cling to faith and
hope in the God we serve, we persevere and press ever onward toward the prize.
1 Peter 5:10, “But may the God of all grace, who called us to
His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect,
establish, strengthen, and settle you.”
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
There are moments in life that define us. There are situations and circumstances we go through that compel us to either rise to the challenge, dig deep, and discover new wells of heretofore unexpected strength, or crush us beneath the weight of their bulk, leaving us broken and untethered. These are the make-or-break moments, the ones that shape us and we remember for the rest of our lives. When we find ourselves at the crossroads of such monumental, life-defining choices, the deciding factor will always be whether we trust God beyond what we can see with our eyes of flesh or surrender to the avalanche of despair that the situation produced.
Trust, faith, and hope are all choices we make as
individuals, and once the choice is made, we contend with the consequences,
whether for good or ill. It takes self-awareness and brutal honesty to look at
where we are and admit, if only to ourselves, that it's due to our choices and
decisions over the span of months, years, or decades that we find ourselves in
certain situations and conclude that had we heeded God at certain bifurcations
in the road, we would be in a different place altogether.
You can’t blame God for where you are if every step of the
way, you turned left when He told you to turn right, moved forward when He told
you to stand still, and pressed on trying to make it work on your own when His
instruction was to rest in Him and see what He can do.
Beyond the ripples and waves the fall of prominent men within
Christendom has caused of late, what I find equally tragic is that few, if any,
have taken accountability for their actions, acknowledged their failures, and
sought repentance. I’m not talking about those who, eying a return to ministry,
have half-heartedly apologized for their sin, but those who, understanding the
gravity of their situation, repented before God in sackcloth and ash.
It’s not my job to gauge true repentance of heart because only
God knows the hearts of men, but with true repentance comes a new humility, a
change of one’s ways, and a rejection of the sins that beset them, then exposed
them, then made them the topic of the news cycle for weeks on end.
How do you know so and so didn’t repent? Because they’re
still trying to find someone to blame for their actions, attempting to
scapegoat their sin, and laying the blame at the feet of anyone else other than
themselves, that’s how.
Recently, a pastor of one of the biggest churches in America
tried to blame his twelve-year-old victim for the unspeakable things he did,
claiming that she seduced him, having a Jezebel spirit and a spirit of
seduction upon her. Yes, you read that right, twelve. This occurred while he
was a fully grown adult, married, with a child, but it was the
twelve-year-old’s fault for his being creepy and perverted and grooming her to
the point of taking her innocence. Sorry, not sorry, but that’s not true
repentance of heart. That’s trying to justify your perversion and
licentiousness.
This is where we are, and it’s not because God desired the
church to be full of hypocrites and perverts doing unspeakable things to those
under their spiritual authority but because those men made choices. Conscious,
repeated, ongoing choices contrary to the Word and will of God.
Nobody wakes up five hundred pounds overweight, huffing and
puffing as they waddle to the door to take delivery of their Dominos order. It
happened gradually, over time, one choice leading to another, compounding its
effects, until one either acknowledges the state they’re in or continues to
blame the dryer for shrinking their clothes and buying a new dryer.
Sin lies at the door of every man’s heart, and its desire is
to corrupt and destroy, but it is our duty to resist it and rule over it,
knowing that we have the power to do so through the grace of God. It has been
this way since the beginning, when God warned Cain of the enemy’s devices,
clearly defining the two paths that were before him. He could have chosen to do
well, and he would be accepted, or harden his heart, grow bitter, and do the
unthinkable, rising up against his brother Abel and killing him.
Man does not disobey, rebel, or sin in a vacuum. There are
always consequences to the path they choose to take, whether those consequences
are evident instantly or over time. In His love, God warns us to choose what is
good, to do well, and to let faith be the anchor that keeps us from being swept
away by the roaring sea, but the choice is ultimately ours as individuals as to
whether we will heed His counsel, or do as we will.
Not only did Job not find fault with God for his situation,
but he also didn’t go looking for someone to blame for it. He didn’t lash out
at his wife, trying to blame her for having lost everything, or his servants
who came to bring him the devastating news of what had occurred to his children
and his possessions; he didn’t inquire if the cook had made some bad lamb and
that’s why he was covered in boils, he retained his integrity and his faith in
the God he served and humbled himself in worship. All this while God deemed him
a blameless and upright man. It’s not as though Job had some secret sin that
had been exposed or knew himself to be faithless, pretending to be faithful. He
was not suffering the consequences of his actions or the repercussions of his
rebellion. His faith was being tested, all the while remaining in the dark as
to why and for what purpose.
Job made the choice to remain faithful even though he could
not see the whole picture and was operating with incomplete information. All he
knew was that he’d just suffered the loss of all his earthly possessions, the
loss of his children, and the loss of his health. Even so, he trusted the God
he served and had confidence in His sovereignty.
How far are you willing to trust God? If not all the way, then your faith has not been established, and the only question is how hard the enemy has to press to make you waiver.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
It’s human nature to accept good things with open arms. Whether it’s a compliment, a promotion, or finding out someone slipped an extra nugget in your six-piece value meal, it tends to make us feel warm and cozy, elevate our spirits, and more often than not, we find ourselves smiling for no other reason than that something good and unexpected just occurred.
Although we are not as jubilant about embracing adversity, it
too has a purpose that is well-defined and readily identified, especially in
hindsight. Hardship, adversity, trials, and testing mold character, and once
we’ve gone through it and come out the other side victorious, we are stronger
for it, with a deeper faith in the God we serve.
Even at his low point, Job had the wherewithal to acknowledge
that both good things and adversity come from the hand of God and, as such,
must be received with equal aplomb. But that just can’t be! We’re told day in
and day out that our expectations of God should extend no further than good
things, pressed down, shaken together, all the time, without fail, whether
we’re awake or sleeping. Otherwise, we’re lacking in faith or failed to make a
seed offering to our preferred televangelist.
While the modern-day church needlessly complicates some
things, it also oversimplifies others, to the point that the entirety of our
spiritual man’s succor is boiled down to a handful of overused clichés or
morning affirmations we’ve taken to repeating in the mirror. We wouldn’t want
to burden people with deeper discussions about faithfulness, obedience, or
perseverance. They’re busy people with busy lives, and if we insist they take
an extra second to consider deeper truths, they’re likely to go to the church
across the street that has an hour of praise of worship followed by a
five-minute sermon about karma.
The shepherds have failed the sheep, the church has failed
God, and what was to be an army marching through the land with healing in their
hand and everlasting joy and gladness in their hearts has been reduced to a
bunch of man-babies who whine and stomp their feet until someone comes along to
shove a pacifier in their mouth, and tell them it’s all going to be fine, and
their breakthrough is just an offering away.
You get what we have when there is a systemic failure to
preach the Gospel in any given generation by those whose sole purpose and duty
was to do just that. The whole counsel of God means even those things your
flesh is uncomfortable with, even those areas that call for the mortification
thereof, and the undeniable reality that the testing of one’s faith, whichever
way it may manifest, is not something outside the realm of possibility, or even
a probability, but a certainty.
When an entire generation has been conditioned to believe
that only good things will abound and overflow in their lives once they’ve made
a half-hearted commitment to call themselves spiritual, their immediate
reaction to any adversity is to arch their eyebrows and back away slowly
because it’s neither what they signed up for, nor what they were promised by
the guy in the three-piece suit and the Rolex on his wrist.
Job did not react in the flesh. He did not shake his fists at
the heavens or insist he didn’t deserve to go through the adversity he was
currently going through; he didn’t get bitter, angry, or vindictive because his
focus was exclusively on God, and he trusted in His sovereignty, the way a
child trusts their mother or father. He did not doubt God’s goodness and mercy,
nor did he charge Him with wrong.
We can dwell on our current situation or circumstance, and
the more we do, the bigger the problem seems to get, or we can fix our gaze
upon God and worship Him, fully confident that He knows the end from the
beginning and has made a way of escape for us.
1 Corinthians 10:13, “No temptation has overtaken you except
such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be
tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the
way of escape that you may be able to bear it.”
Although when we think of temptation, we tend to associate it
with a seduction of some kind, the broader definition of the word is the desire
to do something wrong or unwise. Yes, wanting to eat that triple-layer
chocolate cake in one sitting is a form of temptation, but so is the desire to
question the authority of God. As far as the cake is concerned, it’s an easy
fix: walk away. If you can’t walk away, throw it in the garbage. If it’s still
tempting you while sitting in the garbage can, toss some wet coffee grounds on
it, or if, perchance, you happen to have a child still in diapers, a dirty
diaper draped across it should dissuade you from digging it out.
When it comes to resisting the temptation to grow bitter or
resentful, it’s a bit more complicated because you can’t walk away from your
feelings or what’s burdening your heart. The means of escape from such
temptations requires deep, unyielding, and abiding faith in the God you serve
because it’s your faith that will be the means of escape from spiraling into despondency
and the nagging question of whether He is still with you or not.
Job knew that God was with him still, even as he sat on a
heap of ashes, scratching at his boils with a potsherd. He knew the presence of
God in the midst of his trial and was unshakeable in his resolve.
Avoiding the storm isn’t proof that God is with you. Knowing
His abiding presence in the midst of the storm is. The storms of life are
purposeful, whether to teach us dependence and reliance on Him or for the works
of God to be revealed in them.
When Jesus noticed a man who had been blind from birth, his
disciples wanted to know whether the man or his parents had sinned that he’d
been born blind. Jesus answered, saying, “Neither this man nor his parents
sinned, but that the works of God should be revealed in him.”
Not as simple as chanting, “Money cometh unto me now,” then
again, few things in life are.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
If a stranger were to approach either of my daughters, insisting that they’d seen me kicking a puppy, they’d call him a liar to his face because they know my character. They wouldn’t even entertain the thought or ask for evidence; they would know offhand that it was a lie and that there was no further need for debate.
As true children of God, there is not a shadow of doubt
regarding God’s love, goodness, mercy, and grace because we know the character
of the God we serve just as readily as my daughters know mine. Our reaction to
trials and hardships, testing and chastening, reveals the level to which we
know God. If God is established in your heart, and you acknowledge Him in all
your ways, come what may, you will not be moved or shaken. The valleys may be
uncomfortable, even painful to the flesh, but your assurance that God is
working all things together for good to those who are called according to His
purpose will remain resolute.
When we do not know the nature of the God we serve or have a
limited understanding of it, then we will interpret the goings on of life in
the worst possible light, likely growing bitter and hardened in our hearts
along the way.
My little one is not what anyone may call overly cautious.
She’s happy and carefree, as children should be for as long as you can manage
it, but sometimes, as a father who wants the best for his children and is ever
aware of the dangers lurking everywhere, I have to step in and keep her from
doing something that will hurt her.
My daughters have a youth Bible study session at church every
Wednesday night. I’m usually the one to take them since I like to give my wife
a couple of hours of free time when no one’s calling her name every fifteen
seconds, and she can decompress. Although both of my daughters know that they should
look both ways before crossing the street, the little one is not as cautious
when it comes to walking through parking lots. We’d parked in the church
parking lot, and before I could turn off the engine, the little one was already
out the door. I rushed to catch up, seeing as she was getting ready to sprint
to the church door, and as I caught up to her and put my hand on her shoulder
to stop her progress, a car zipped by, perhaps two feet from where she was now
standing since I’d stopped her momentum.
She didn’t bristle or argue; she just turned her head, and
with big eyes, realizing what could have happened had I not stopped her in her
tracks, she said, ‘Sorry, Daddy.” Then she took my hand, and we walked into
church.
We must allow for the reality that God sees the future far
clearer than we, creations with limited understanding, can. In truth, unless we
are giving divine insight or some prophetic revelation, we cannot know what the
future holds for us as individuals. We have hopes, and we work toward goals,
but as far as achieving them or things turning out the way we’d imagined, they
rarely do. When God stops our forward momentum, our progress, or takes our hand
and steers us away from something we’d intended to pursue, it’s not because He’s
being mean or doesn’t want us to have good things, but because He sees the
impending danger, and the tragedy that would befall us had we continued on our way.
Some people think they know better than God, so they resist
His guidance. They push on, even though His hand is upon them, insisting that
they stand still. They pursue their goals even though they are not in harmony
with God’s plan for their life, then turn around and blame Him when it comes to
ruin, and all that they’d worked and labored for, slips through their fingers
like so much ash.
The same goes for when our level of maturity is tested. For
every spiritual lesson there is a corresponding exam, and only once we’ve
passed the exam can we graduate to the next lesson. If we fail to study to show
ourselves approved, we get held back, just as one would get held back in the
first grade if he failed to learn the alphabet. Granted, spiritually speaking,
some people are still in first grade after decades of failing to learn the most
basic or elementary principles of Christ, but that’s on them and not on God.
Have we learned what we were meant to learn, or did we go
through the lesson without applying any of the wisdom to our daily lives? Are
we changed for the better? Do we see the world and our place in it through a
more spiritually-centered prism? Are we striving for and seeking after the
things above and not the things of this earth?
The testing determines the truth of it, and as is often the
case, what is on our lips and what is in our hearts are two wholly different
things. You can’t cheat your way out of God’s testing or have someone else take
the exam for you.
God’s purpose is your maturity, your sanctification, your walking
in faith, and the authority rightly due to His children. The reason you have to
grow in order to be entrusted with greater responsibility, a greater calling,
or a greater gifting is the same reason you don’t let a toddler play with a
loaded gun. You need to know the rules, go through safety training, and be
mature enough in your understanding to know that there is power in what you’ve
been given, and it’s not to be abused, misappropriated, misused, or treated
lightly.
Job was a man whom God deemed worthy of testing. The testing
of one’s faith ought not to be looked upon as a negative or something to be
begged off but as something God deems us worthy of. It’s an honor, a promotion,
an achievement, and not a punishment or demotion.
It’s a difficult, almost counterintuitive mind-shift to
embrace, especially given all the ignorant voices equating God’s testing with
His punishment or reproof. Shortly after being beaten for preaching a risen
Christ, the apostles departed from the presence of the council of the Pharisees,
rejoicing that they had been counted worthy to suffer shame for His name.
If you are being tested, it’s because God finds you worthy of
testing. If you are being chastened, it’s because God loves you, He sees you as
a son or daughter, and He chastens those He loves. It may be uncomfortable,
disconcerting, even painful in the moment, but the end result will be more of God
and less of you, which is the ultimate goal of every believer.
Romans 5:3-5, “And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character, and character, hope. Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.”
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
When God asked Satan if he’d considered His servant Job, Satan did not feign ignorance or insist he knew not of what God spoke. Not once, but on two occasions, we see that Satan is aware of those who cling to faith, who walk upright, and who serve God just as readily as he is about those who are his or those who pretend to be of the household of faith but are not.
If you are a true servant of God, then you have a target on
your back. Satan is fully aware of your faithfulness, just as God is, but while
one rejoices in your faithfulness, the other is scheming and plotting ways to
shatter it and destroy it. Far too many believers are walking about today, not
fully cognizant of the lengths to which the enemy of their soul will go in his
attempts to stall their commitment to walking in the way or stifle the fire of
their love for God.
Ignorance of the enemy and his devices will likely cause an
individual to be taken by surprise when the attacks commence, especially if
they’ve been sitting under teaching that does not allow for the possibility of
being tested, tried, attacked, or targeted.
Awareness of our enemy and the plots he schemes is directly
related to our spiritual maturity and understanding of the spiritual warfare in
which we are bound to engage if we continue walking in faith and growing in
God. Neither of my daughters was naturally aware that fire was dangerous when
they were babies. They had to be told not to touch a hot stove or a hot
skillet, and when they’d ask the inevitable why, either their mother or myself
would sit down and explain it to them. Fire burns. It doesn’t matter whether or
not you are aware of its effects, and it does not spare someone who stuck their
hand in it out of ignorance. Having to contend with scars for the rest of your
life is a high price to pay in order to learn that fire is not to be played
with, but some individuals are unwilling to learn from the mistakes of others
and have to prove it to themselves.
Mature believers, especially those in leadership, such as
elders or pastors, have the duty to warn those who are babes in Christ of the
dangers the enemy poses and instruct them to guard their hearts against his
devices. Not doing so is not an oversight but a failure of their spiritual duty
toward the body of Christ, and something that will not go unnoticed by God.
We act as though we’re trying to sell a timeshare when
preaching Christ, as though we have to trick people into signing on the dotted
line and becoming active members of something that would otherwise not be worth
it were it not for the prettied-up presentation. We feel as though we need to
add extra value to what is already the best, most generous offer we will run
across in a thousand lifetimes, thinking that we are doing God a favor or that
we’re the ones nudging the individual toward a commitment of some kind.
Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God.
Anything other than the Word of God may produce an emotional reaction, a
temporary sense of remorse or regret of some kind, but it will not produce
faith because faith can only come by hearing the Word. True conversion in
Western nations is rarer than one might imagine for the simple fact that what
is being preached from the pulpit today is not the Word of God, but the words
of men made up to look like the Word of God, spoken with enough inflection and
pregnant pauses that the newly initiated, or the outright ignorant can’t tell
the difference between the two.
Although I’ve made this point repeatedly, some might even say
excessively, I will make it anew: You must study to show yourself approved! You
can’t outsource your knowledge of God’s word to another; you can’t hire an
assistant to do it for you; it can’t be transferred to your heart via
telekinesis or telepathy. You must sit with the word of God, read it, contemplate
it, meditate upon it, let it feed you, take root in your heart, and nourish
your faith.
Brother, tell me what I need to do to grow in God and deepen
my faith. Read His word, pray, and spend time with Him. But I’m looking for a
shortcut, something that won’t take up so much of my time. Isn’t there another
way? No, there isn’t, and anyone who tells you differently is lying to you and,
at some point in the future, will try to sell you some magic beans or a genie
in a bottle.
It’s easy to focus solely on Job’s travails. All things being
equal, it’s hard to look away. It’s like driving by a recent car crash on the
other side of the road. You slow down, take a long look, make sure someone is
there to help already, then close your eyes, breathe a sigh, and thank God it
wasn’t you being extricated from a pile of twisted metal with the jaws of life.
We shouldn’t discount what Job suffered, but at the same
time, as believers, we must focus on the perseverance of his faith and
submission to God in all things far more readily than we would the loss of all
things or the painful boils covering him from head to toe. Job’s reaction to
all that befell him is a master class in placing one’s faith and trust in God
and being unshakeable when it comes to the knowledge of His character. In order
to endure what Job endured and come through it with your integrity intact, you
must know the God you serve intimately and personally. Job hadn’t heard about God;
he knew God. He hadn’t watched others worship Him; Job worshiped Him.
There is a tendency in our modern age to put men up on
pedestals and think them spiritually superior, and there are plenty who take
advantage of this esteem and make merchandise of those who see them with starry
eyes and fluttering hearts. They lean into it and project an air of spirituality
that they do not possess, doing such impeccable acting as to be worthy of an
Oscar. As for the sheep, they come to believe that by giving a few shekels to
someone whom they deem close to God, they themselves draw closer to God, not
understanding that the only way to grow in God is to do it themselves.
You are not made righteous by another’s righteousness. You
are not sanctified because someone you know or esteem is so. You’re not spiritually
mature because you sit under the teaching of someone who is. There are no
shortcuts, no cheat sheets, no mantras, no secret pathways, just a daily
fellowship with God, spending time with Him, growing in Him, and learning to
trust Him in all things. That’s how we get from where we are to having faith
like Job. What many fail to understand is that such a faith isn’t optional for
the believer but necessary in the days ahead.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Specialists in the area of breaking the human will have
concluded that everyone has a breaking point. You can’t hold out indefinitely.
Eventually, the pain becomes too much, the privation too intense, and something
snaps. You relent. You give in. You tell the interrogator what he wants to
know, and some besides just to make it stop. This is by no means a new
revelation. It’s been common knowledge among those whose profession is to hurt
others in varied and ever-crueler ways for a very long time. This is why the
fortitude, perseverance, tenacity, and grit of the Christians baffled the
Communists so. They were supposed to relent, they were supposed to break, they
were supposed to give up the ghost and tell their torturers what they wanted to
hear, yet they didn’t.
For many, it was a long road to martyrdom, nothing so swift
as a guillotine or a bullet to the back of the head because they had
information their persecutors needed in order to ferret out their brothers and
sisters in Christ and stamp out this obstinate resistance to the system. It’s
how they viewed believers, not because they were overtly political or partisan,
but because their hope in Christ eliminated the need to be dependent on the
current power structure, and that, in turn, weakened their control over them.
What those who doled out merciless pain didn’t understand is
that those they were persecuting had hope and faith in the God they served.
Those were the unquantifiable factors that allowed common men to endure
uncommon hardships, all the while deepening their bond of love and devotion
with the God they served. They understood that whatever hardship they had to
endure was temporary. The pain, the tears, the cold, the hunger, the
dehumanization rituals that were a favorite of the old regime couldn’t last
forever.
Sometime in the 1950s, an experiment was conducted by a
professor at Johns Hopkins that attempted to quantify the power of hope. The
professor’s name was Curt Richter, and he used rats for his experiment. He took
a group of rats, put them in water, and timed how long it took them to drown. I
know, cruel, perhaps needlessly so, but bear with me.
Then he took another group of rats, put them in water, and
just as they were about to drown, pulled them out. He allowed them to rest,
then put them back in the water, and to his surprise, the rats that had been
saved, having returned to the water, swam for far longer than those who had
never known the hope of being plucked from the water and jubilation of being
saved.
Believers endure and persevere because they have faith and
hope in the God who saved them. They know what it is to be on the brink of
death, drowning in sin, and to be plucked from the depths by His loving hand. We
go on when others give up, and we endure when others surrender because we know our
hope is not misplaced and our faith is not without substance. Our prior
experience of having been given life through the sacrifice of Christ on the
cross solidifies our hope and faith that God is able, He will make a way, and
He can do the impossible.
No matter how violent the storm or how strong the waves
buffeting us, our attitude must always be one of trust and full assurance in
the God we serve. God is in control. It is a sentiment that has been echoed by
every true servant throughout the ages whenever faced with circumstances deemed
impossible by others.
We can’t get around the reality that faith involves putting
yourself at risk by acting on what you have confidence in. When Shadrach,
Meshach, and Abednego stood before an enraged Nebuchadnezzar, they had
confidence that their God was able to preserve them, keep them, and save them.
Whether He would or not was another matter entirely, but they’d made their
peace that whether God saved them or they succumbed to the flames, He was still
God, and they would remain faithful.
The only assurance they had was that God was God, and He
would continue to remain God even after the events that would transpire,
whether He chose to keep them from becoming human torches or supernaturally spare
their lives. Their faith in God’s omnipotence was unwavering even though they
stood before a king and his assembled acolytes, with the flames of a raging
furnace within view.
It’s one thing to be threatened with some future, potential punishment;
it’s another to watch the fire and know that the man threatening to cast you in
it has both the power, authority, and inclination to do so. It wasn’t hypothetical;
it was actual, factual, and real. They did not doubt Nebuchadnezzar’s resolve;
they trusted in the power of the God they served.
You can’t quantify faith and hope. You can’t bottle them up
and sell them, and acquiring them requires a lifelong commitment to obeying the
will and Word of God in all things. Faith and hope begin as infants, and with
diligent nurture and attention, they grow to maturation, just like a child
would.
When we begin the journey, we have faith in the little things
because our faith is small. It is alive, a substantive thing, and we can feel
it in our hearts, but the more we exercise it, stretch it, feed it, and lean on
it, the more it grows. As your faith grows, you learn to walk in it with ever
greater boldness, looking back on the road you traveled and seeing the
countless times it kept you surefooted and upright.
By the time Job’s trial came his faith in God had fully
matured. He’d served God, worshiped Him, and fellowshipped with Him for many
years before Satan asked to sift him, and we know this because, by the time of
his testing, he already had ten fully grown children living on their own. Satan
was as befuddled as the torturers of the old regime as to why this man’s faith
held strong, and he did not waiver because even though the demons believe and
tremble, they cannot possess salvific faith.
It’s easy to conflate belief and faith, but they are not the
same. Faith involves reliance and trust. Faith endures in the face of trial and
doubt. Belief, on the other hand, is something we take to be true. You may
believe you can walk on water, but Peter had the faith to step from the shore and
walk toward Jesus upon the waves. That’s what faith does. It keeps you pressing
onward even when your sense of self-preservation and all available physical evidence
is screaming that you should turn around. Faith takes us from the realm of the impossible
to that of all things being possible with God.
Jude 20-21, “But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.”
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
Although I will not set out to answer such impossible questions as to which came first, the chicken or the egg, there is something that stood out in the life of Job that is an indispensable lesson for every believer and something that should quell the back and forth between the camps that have formed within the church, who tragically spend more time at each other’s throats than preaching a risen, glorified Christ.
Job’s goal and purpose were never to be an upright and
blameless man. The desire of Job’s heart was to serve God, worship Him, and
walk in the fear of the Lord. Blamelessness and uprightness are naturally
occurring virtues in the lives and hearts of those who seek to know God and
worship Him. The beginning of every journey must have a destination in mind.
Otherwise, we are but vagabonds going to and fro on the highways and byways of
life without purpose or vision.
When we begin our journey of faith, our goal isn’t a better
version of the old man but a reborn, transformed, new creation that naturally
gravitates toward the good, the noble, and the light. It’s not the old thing,
prettied up and made to look like a new thing; it’s actually a whole new thing.
Because our minds have been renewed, and our old desires have been replaced
with the new, we don’t have to force ourselves to spend time in God’s presence,
read His word, serve Him, or glorify Him. These things are not looked upon as
chores or tasks we would rather someone else perform in our stead but as the
pinnacle of our day and the one thing we’re most excited to do upon waking. The
best part of waking up isn’t Folgers in your cup; it’s getting to spend time
with Jesus and have fellowship with Him.
Easy for you to say you’ve got the extra time. As I type
these words, it is 3:17 AM, and I’ve been up for a solid hour already, just
spending time with God and reading a few verses out of Romans. Is my point that
I’m more spiritual than you? Hardly. My point is that every morning, I forfeit
a couple of hours of extra sleep just to have the quiet time with God because I
prioritize that experience over a bit of extra slumber. If you can’t seem to
find time for God on a given day, you’re not trying hard enough. Either that or
He isn’t as high on your list of priorities as you might think.
Because we want to instill values, morals, a solid work
ethic, and personal accountability in our daughters, my wife and I have come up
with a list of family contributions for which every member of the family is
responsible. Whether it’s emptying the dishwasher, setting the table,
vacuuming, taking out the trash, doing laundry, or folding clothes, each of us
has a daily task that needs to be completed. To see my daughters’ faces when it
comes time to do their family contribution, one would think they’re starting
their twelve-hour shift at the iPhone factory and not taking two minutes to put
some plates away. Many believers have the same attitude when it comes to
spending time with God, in His presence, or in His word.
If we use every excuse under the sun not to spend time with
God and worship Him, if we find ever more inventive reasons not to take the
time to read and meditate on His word, then I think it’s fair to ask whether we
are aware that the heaven we’re so eager to go to is God’s habitation, and He
will be there in perpetuity.
If you set out to be a ‘good person’ rather than know God,
you’ve lived a wasted life, and your goodness, however noble in the eyes of
your contemporaries, will be as filthy rags when you stand before the Creator
of all that is.
If, however, you set out to be wholly committed to the way
and cling to God and His grace no matter what may be going on around you, the
transformation into a blameless and upright man will occur without you having
to force it, dwell on it, or squint your eyes and hold your breath until it
occurs.
The presence of God compels transformation. Some men are
quick to denounce it as works salvation, but it’s God transforming you, not you
transforming yourself. The only thing incumbent upon you as an individual is to
not resist the potter as he molds the clay that is you. It’s hard for us to
wrap our minds around the fact that we don’t get to choose the shape we’re
molded into, nor do we get to choose what we are filled with once the molding
and firing is complete.
The notion that we can make demands of God both in terms of
what we want to end up as and what gifting we want to receive from His hand is
a fairy tale opportunists tell gullible people to try and get them to buy their
course on unlocking their prophetic superpowers.
Yes, we are to desire spiritual gifts, especially that we
prophesy but it doesn’t mean that we’ll get what we want. We get what God deems
as necessary for the body, whether that’s prophesy, wisdom, healing, knowledge,
tongues, discernment, or interpretation of tongues.
I did not choose the area of ministry I would serve in; I
just chose to serve. I would have been just as happy rubbing Pine-Sol into the
pews of an old country church if I knew I was where God wanted me to be. When
your singular purpose and desire is to serve God, when He is firmly established
on the throne of your heart, then everything else comes into focus. All the
baggage, all the aspirations, all the plans and planning fall by the wayside,
and the only thing that remains in perpetuity is daily following after Him.
For those who are still trying to build a ministry, a church,
or a reputation on their own, the most liberating feeling you will ever
experience is surrendering it to God, leaving it in His care, and putting your
hand to the plow wherever He puts you in His harvest field.
There were no underhanded schemes, feigned worship to achieve some goal down the line, or lip service as far as Job’s commitment to God and His sovereignty are concerned. He was authentically worshipful and desirous of the presence of God in his life and prioritized these things above all else.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
The devil is shameless. Even when he knows he’s been beaten, even when he knows he’s lost, he doubles down and continues with his machinations in the hope that he can sway the faithful and bring them harm. Empathy is as foreign to him as algebra is to a pet hamster, and he does not seek to tamp down his hatred of God’s people. When it suits him, he will attempt to mask it, hide it, or slip a sheep mask over his wolf snout, but as far as wanting to change, there is no desire for such things.
Satan pulled no punches when it came to Job, yet through it
all, Job did not sin with his lips. Pressure reveals the true character of a
man. When he gets blindsided, what’s in his heart flows forth from his lips.
We’ve all seen exchanges between people who seem affable and cool as cucumbers
get needled to the point of letting their mask slip, then the claws come out in
quick fashion, and the things that come out of their mouth are wholly
antithetical to the image they tried to project. Job did not sin with his lips
because he had God in his heart. It is a lesson well worth learning, given that
we see the tailspins some individuals go into and the things they say they
later apologize for but, in the heat of the moment, fail to control.
Job was at his most vulnerable. He was likely still
processing all that had happened to him, mourning, grieving, dealing with the
pain of his boils, then his wife all but calls him a fool for holding on to his
integrity and suggesting he’d be better off dead.
It is said you can only push a man so far. In Job’s case, he
could be pushed no further. Satan had been commanded to spare his life, and
this was the only reason Job was still breathing, but as far as living, far
from it. Being alive and living are two different things. You’re technically alive
if you’re drawing breath, but if you’re laying on a pile of ashes, pain
wracking your body, it’s more akin to surviving than living. It’s a hard thing
to imagine, going from being the greatest of all the people of the East one
day, then sitting on an ash pile scratching at your boils with a potsherd the
next, with your wife being used by the enemy to encourage you to pack it in,
curse God, and die.
This is the sort of pressure that turns coals into diamonds,
the type of pressure about which stories are told, and the men who persevere
through it are seen as heroes of the faith and examples worthy of emulating.
Comfort and ease of life make men soft and given enough time,
living a life of ease tends to make one forget that trials, tribulations, and
hardships are only a breath away. When the sun is shining, we tend not to
appreciate the value of a life vest, but come the storm and the battering
waves, come the howling winds and the sheeting rain, we’re quick to strap it
on, tighten the fasteners, and prepare for the worst.
Analogously speaking, some have had it so good for so long,
and their life preservers have been out of mind for so many years that they
failed to notice they’d gotten moldy and rotten, and when they reach for them,
they crumble between their fingers. Most men remember God in their times of
hardship, but up until that point, they’ve ignored their relationship with Him
for so long that when they need Him, they discover He has become little more
than a stranger or a long-forgotten acquaintance.
The authenticity of our relationship with God is readily
discerned when we hold fast to Him, serve Him, and worship Him during our
season of plenty as readily and wholeheartedly as we do in our time of
distress. When men run to God only when they need something from Him, it
denotes an underlying lukewarmness and an underhanded usury, wherein they don’t
spare Him a second thought until they need Him to intervene on some matter or
another.
God is beyond being deceived by situational affection. I love
you, Lord, now fix this problem for me. But where were you when there were no
problems in sight? Where were you when all was well, things were running
smoothly, and the focus of your existence was yourself?
You can’t fake loyalty and faithfulness to God. He sees
through the charade readily enough. He sees all that resides within the hearts
of men, whether true love or duplicity, obedience or feigned allegiance, and
nothing is hidden from Him.
The intent of the heart matters. It’s the reason God called
David a man after His own heart, even though he was flawed in many ways. David
was not a perfect man, far from it. Unlike Job, God never looked upon David and
deemed him blameless and upright. However, through all of his ups and downs,
David’s singular desire remained to be pleasing in the sight of the Lord and to
have a genuine and reciprocal relationship with Him. When David sinned, he
repented. When God called him out on his failures, David did not deny it or try
to justify it but humbled himself in the sight of the Lord and felt genuine
remorse for what he’d done.
The Word of God serves as both His love letter to mankind as
well as an instruction manual for His creation. We have both positive and
negative examples, virtues and practices we should strive for, and flaws and
shortcomings we should avoid and steer clear of. We have the benefit of
aggregate wisdom spanning thousands of years in a handy volume we can carry
anywhere and read at any time. It is a grace most don’t appreciate and do not
avail themselves of except superficially, taking little account of all the
sacrifices made throughout the centuries so that they could possess that book
that’s been gathering dust on a side table for months without once being
cracked open.
When it stands before God, one day, this generation will be
without excuse. Especially those who have lived in freedom to the point that
they’ve abused it, taken it for granted, and begun to pine for the shackles
others bled and died to be free of. God doesn’t judge on a curve. He judges
according to His standard, which is immutable.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
I’ve never been happier to be wrong. It’s like thinking you’re having a heart attack, and all it was is indigestion from the slice of gas station pizza you scarfed down because you hadn’t eaten in a day, and your stomach was starting to sound like one of the brass bands that frequent the French Quarter in New Orleans on Sundays.
For those thinking it’s over and blue skies paint the horizon
as far as the eye can see, not even close, but at least we won’t have to hear
that Rachel Lavine is a brave and beautiful woman or that pronouns trump
accomplishments, that gender outweighs ability, or that the way to a glorious
future is the indiscriminate murder of the unborn, at least not for a little
while.
Evidently, enough people showed up, hoping against hope, that
their vote mattered, wherein they beat the spread. It’s not as though they didn’t
try their hardest, but you could only do so much with what you’ve been handed,
and a guy on crutches with a torn Achilles can’t be expected to be the deciding
factor in a soccer game.
Jaded as the following may sound, there are still
seventy-five days until inauguration day, and a lot can happen between now and
then. The game has now shifted into overdrive. Those currently in power
understand the existential threat the current projected winner of the 2024
presidential elections and the rogue's gallery of competent, accomplished, and motivated
individuals he’s surrounded himself with this time around pose to permanent
Washington and the deep-seated animus they have toward the unelected bureaucrats
ruling and pulling strings from the shadows.
They are now backed into a corner with nothing left to lose, and
the thought of what’s best for the country is the farthest thing from their mind.
Havoc and chaos are two words that come to mind when I think about the next two
and a half months, and once again, I hope from the depths of my heart that I am
wrong.
Unlike many this morning, I am not in a celebratory mood; I’m
just breathing a sigh of relief, being cautiously optimistic about being given
a little more time to do what I’ve been called to do and not have to hand out
charcoal pills to my girls every morning before they enjoy their squirrel
ragout. A thing delayed is not a thing denied. A thing forestalled is just
that. It has been put off but not reversed.
Band-aids on bullet wounds may staunch the bleeding for a
while, but you still need to contend with the wound itself. There are no easy
fixes, no magic wands, or other levers anyone can pull that will fix what’s
been broken for decades on end. Spiritual problems cannot be fixed politically,
no matter who’s in charge, but as I’ve stated before, being left alone to serve
God and raise my children is enough of an incentive for me. That I won’t have
someone with pink hair and a septum piercing knocking at my door asking why I’m
not flying the rainbow flag, that transgender ideology won’t be mandated in my
daughters’ school curriculum, or that the local burger joint won’t be offering
a free abortion with the purchase of a happy meal, is a good thing. That’s as
far as my expectations extend, and anything beyond that is a boon.
Globalism may have lost this battle, but those in the shadows
are still fully intent on fighting the war to the last. For those who insist
this election was inconsequential, look at the reactions of those pushing
various depraved agendas over the next few weeks, and you’ll understand that it
wasn’t.
We will resume our study of Job shortly. With this new wrinkle, we may still be around long enough to finish it. In all things, God’s will be done, and to Him be the glory.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
You can either curse the darkness or light a candle. I heard
that somewhere once, and it stuck. When in full dark, with no moon or stars to
bleed a little light into the murk, even a flickering, sputtering candle will
push back the cloying darkness enough for it not to seem a tangible thing,
pressing in all around you. We’d all rather have a spotlight or a flashlight
with enough lumens to burn our shadow into a neighboring tree, but sometimes
you have to use what’s at your disposal, and a half-used wax candle is all we’ve
got.
The thing about darkness is that it hates any light whatsoever,
including something as seemingly innocuous as a flickering candle. Light is light,
and it seeks to extinguish it no matter how small and infrequent it might be.
Once it can convince enough people to give up their candles voluntarily, it
will inevitably try to take those remaining by force.
I grew up in a Communist country for the first nine years of
my life. My parents and grandparents lived under the regime for much longer. I
know what it becomes when it’s fully implemented in a nation where the people
no longer have a voice, a choice, or a means of redress for the abuse they endure
at the hands of those with a chip on their shoulder and an inferiority complex.
I’ve heard enough stories and spoken to enough people about
what it was like to know the lengths to which those in power will go to retain
the power they’ve amassed and how they view everyone except their inner circle
as disposable fodder for the utopia they’ve envisioned that will never
materialize because human nature is what it is, and hedonism is alive and well.
This is why I chuckle at those who’ve never lived it pining for
the equity of Socialism or Communism. Although with their lips, they say the
only thing they’ve ever wanted was equality, in their hearts, they echo George
Orwell's sentiment, insisting that some animals are more equal than others. Serendipitously,
they never see themselves as the inferior animals. It’s always you and I, the
people who just want to be left alone to raise their children and serve their God,
who derive joy from something other than power or possessions that are deemed
less than.
Those who tried to exterminate Christians and Christianity
did so not because they held some special hatred toward Jesus but because Jesus
gave men hope, and they didn’t like the competition. The system wants exclusive
rights to hope, and anything standing in the way of total dependence on the government
must be excised and done away with.
Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.
That’s the price of ignorance, and eventually, everyone must pay it. By the
time enough people realize what their nation has become, it’s too late to do
anything about it except go along, hoping that you won’t be singled out by the
machine and have your life turned inside out, villainized, and demonized for
not going along with every twisted thing a finite minority now deems as the new
normal.
Even though people were starving, being abused, sent to labor
camps, imprisoned, tortured, and having everything the system deemed excessive
seized on a whim, Nicolae Ceausescu still managed to get 99% of the votes when
they were all counted, but even that wasn’t good enough. After every election,
they would release the hounds to find that 1% who dared not comply and
reeducate them in very violent ways. The 99% were used as the undeniable proof
that the 1% were just rabble-rousers and needed to be dealt with lest the 1%
turn into 2% come the next election cycle.
As I sat in my chair sipping my coffee this morning, I was
left with three choices: say nothing and pretend as though we are not at a crossroads,
be hyper-pious and acknowledge the situation for what it is but insist that all
I’m willing to do is watch the darkness encroaching, or share my heart knowing
that some will take it the wrong way and judge me for it.
The possibility that America can be saved is not on the
table. It hasn’t been for quite some time. Judgment is coming, so the only
variable left to consider is when. If I can have another four years of watching
my daughters grow up in relative peace and continue to do the work to which God
has called me, being left alone and not being forced to bend the knee or suffer
the consequences of my refusal, then I will make an effort to light my candle,
though some within the household of faith may deem it unseemly. Yes, it’s a gnarled,
half-burned, wax-laden candle, but it’s still a candle and can produce a bit of
light. I will not forfeit my right to push back against the darkness, even if,
in the aggregate, it’s but a flicker.
Will it do anything to change the course of this nation?
Likely not, but neither will cursing the darkness and being unwilling to do
anything to halt its progression. I will not be a coward. I will not. I don’t
think I could bear looking my daughters in the face if I were.
Sometimes in life, you have to take a stand, even against
overwhelming odds. It’s not because you think you’ll win, but because it’s the
right thing to do. Who knows? Perhaps someone will see your boldness, and
another theirs, and eventually, enough people stand up and shake off the dust
that they bring the fight to the enemy and give him a run for his money.
I write the following with a heavy heart: The day will come,
and sooner than some may think, when those who stood on the sidelines and did
nothing will wish they had, but it will be too late.
We will return to our journey through Job shortly. For now, remember that those who despise the God you serve have no love for you either. You cannot hate one’s Master but love His servants, no matter how much they try to convince you otherwise.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
The more we draw near to God, the more we grow in Him, the more we see our own wretchedness and those areas in our lives that must be pruned and tended to. Since we’ve become fans of labeling everything, the term that has been coined for this continual maturing and growing in righteousness is progressive sanctification. Daily, we become more like Him; daily, our desires, aspirations, goals, and ambitions are transformed because the more of Him we know, the more humbled we are by His love and grace.
We are being transformed, and daily so, from glory to glory,
and that which we took pleasure in yesterday becomes as a bitter taste in our
mouth today because we realize it is hindering our walk with Him.
What should be more troubling than world events or politics
to some today is the reality that they’ve been in a static spiritual state for
years, if not decades. They have not grown, matured, or been transformed but
are the same as they ever were, the only difference being a fish sticker on
their car. It may not be spiritual death, but it’s close enough, and the more
time passes that they remain in that inert state, the colder their hearts
become toward the things of God.
The pinnacle of your spiritual maturity isn’t when you
surrender your heart to Christ; that’s just the beginning of a lifelong
journey, and with each passing day, your spiritual man must become more robust,
your faith more steadfast, and your walk more surefooted. It took a lifetime of
Job walking with God, knowing Him, and serving Him for him to be able to hold
fast to his integrity when his trial buffeted him. Had he not prioritized his
relationship with God over all else, we may have never been privy to the story
of Job or his faithfulness in the bleakest of circumstances.
2 Corinthians 3:17-18, “Now the Lord is the Spirit; and where
the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. But we all, with unveiled face,
beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the
same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.”
Men abuse liberty just as they abuse grace, not understanding
that the message Paul was trying to send to the Corinthians via his second
letter wasn’t permission to do as they willed but rather a reminder that
although they had liberty, lest they forget, the natural progression of an
individual is to be transformed into the image of the Lord, from glory to
glory.
When men refuse to put away childish things, any excuse will
do. They’ll butcher scripture, take it out of context, twist it to say something
it clearly doesn’t, all because their sin is more important to them than
serving, worshipping, and knowing God. That’s the reality of it. They forfeit
the knowledge of God for the momentary, fleeting pleasures of life but still
have the temerity to insist that they are walking in His will because they have
liberty.
If Job had been looking for an excuse to give up, one was
within reach. He could have deemed his trials undeserved, too harsh for a
loving God to allow, or not what he signed up for, but instead, he held fast to
his integrity and worshipped God.
Even when his wife came up with the brilliant idea that he
should curse God and die, he didn’t react in anger, browbeat her, or demand
that she remove herself from his presence. Even at his lowest, as she poured
salt into the open wounds, his character remained intact, and his response was
in accordance with it.
Job 2:10, “But he said to her, “You speak as one of the
foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not
accept adversity?” In all this Job did not sin with his lips.”
We know next to nothing about Job’s life up until the point
the enemy asked to sift him. By then, he’d already amassed a great fortune, had
ten children, and oversaw a large household. Given the time of Job, however, it
would not be a stretch to conclude that he was a hard man, as all the men of
that time needed to be in order to survive, yet when he addressed his wife,
even though she’d been used by the enemy to try and get him to curse God, he
spoke to her with a tenderness inherent in decades-long marriages the world
over. It may be a small, often overlooked thing, but having been married for a
quarter of a century, come next June, his tenderness toward his wife even as he
sat in ashes, covered in painful boils, and scratching himself with a potsherd,
speaks volumes to me.
He didn’t berate her, call her an idiot, scream at her, or
strike her as was common in those days, but inferred he was surprised that she
would speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Job thought much of his wife,
the mother of his children, and he couldn’t reconcile her words with the woman
with whom he’d shared his life.
The transformative power of God extends to every area of our
lives. It’s not just in the consistency of worship but in how we interact with
those around us, whether disagreeable spouses, snarky progeny, obtuse bosses,
or angry neighbors. It’s that transformation into the likeness of Christ that
those who knew us while we were still of the world notice and react to first
before we even get a chance to tell them about Jesus.
My grandfather’s brother was neither a kind nor gentle man
while he was still of the world. He was gruff, barrel-chested, with a short
fuse and calloused knuckles. Violence was his go-to, no matter the situation,
and any perceived sleight was enough to set him off. That he was a heavy
drinker, what some may deem a functioning alcoholic nowadays, didn’t help
matters either. Then he encountered Jesus, surrendered his life to Him, and he
was a man transformed, a new man, in every sense of the word. He stopped
drinking, cursing, being short-tempered and easily offended, and the man who
once stirred so much fear in the hearts of others as to make them cross the
street if they saw him coming now smiled, and laughed, and asked others if they
needed help for no other reason than to be helpful.
Every time I went back to Romania after the revolution, I’d
make it a point to visit the village I grew up in, and it was inevitable that I
would hear stories of the Duduman boys and their rebellious years, each story
ending with the requisite, “You should have seen them when they were young. I
can’t believe it’s the same person.”
It’s not that I didn’t believe the core of the stories; I
just thought they were a bit exaggerated until one day, I was in a Zody’s
department store parking lot with my grandfather. Zody’s was a discount version
of K-Mart back in the day, which in its own right had been a discount version
of Montgomery Ward. My grandmother had bought him a Botany 500 shirt from
there, a brand which by that time had fallen out of favor, and they had them on
clearance for a whopping three dollars. He liked the feel and fit of it, so we
went back to get a few more.
As we were getting ready to leave, a man began to yell
something about denting his Volkswagen Beetle, parked a few spots away from our
car, even though we hadn’t gone near it. My grandfather asked what the man
wanted, and I told him. My grandpa shook his head, and we turned to leave, but
the man just kept yelling and started walking toward us.
I’d never seen the other side of my grandfather, the side I’d
heard stories about. He’d been a believer for many years by the time I came
along, and all I’d ever known was the gentle side of him, but as the man came
closer, yelling and wagging his finger, I saw my grandfather’s jaw muscles
working and a look flash in his eyes that I’d never seen before. He didn’t
bunch his fists or peacock; he didn’t become outwardly aggressive, just a look
passing over his face, and evidently, the man saw it too because he stopped
midstride, raised his hands, and said, “You know what, sorry, perhaps I was
mistaken,” then turned and walked to his car.
It was years later that I realized the old man was trying to
wiggle off the cross, and though my grandfather had always been the gentlest
man I’ve ever known, his capacity for violence was real and true, lending
credence to all the stories I’d heard.
That’s what the Spirit of the Lord does: He inhabits, and He
transforms, from glory to glory, continually molding us into His likeness.
With love in Christ,
Michael Boldea, Jr.
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